"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Is she interested or is my mind playing games

Budda57

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I was out at the dance clubs/bar this weekend. I was walking around to see who was there and all of the sudden I feel this hand on my butt!! I look back and I see the girl trying to run away. I catch up to her and start talking. We hit it off and end up dancing most the night together. As the night was ending as we dancing, I asks her if she want to leave with me. I got denied badly but I kind of thought it would happen. (I figured I had to try because things between us were going so well) I told her I had to leave (to be up early in the morning because of my firefighting academy) and so I ask for her phone number and she says NO...?

Today I got the itch to find her on Facebook and I was successful. I added her as a friend. Within 30 minutes I got a message saying "hey cutie, how are you?" So I wrote her a message asking if she was still in town? I haven't got a reply bad yet.

What do you guys thing? Is she interested or is my mind playing games?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Budda57 said:
As the night was ending as we dancing, I asks her if she want to leave with me. I got denied badly but I kind of thought it would happen. (I figured I had to try because things between us were going so well)
Every heard of "stop while you are ahead"? You wasted an entire night dancing with this girl and then put everything on the table for a ONS. You would have been much more successful if you danced and chatted with her a bit and left on a high note and not waited until the end of the night on a low note. When you leave on a high note it makes them want more and its the perfect time to ask her for her number. As for ONS if you suggest or hint that and the girl says no then it is highly unlikely you will see her again since her anti-slvt defence will be up and her initial interest in you will be lowered.

Budda57 said:
I told her I had to leave (to be up early in the morning because of my firefighting academy) and so I ask for her phone number and she says NO...?

She already rejected you buddy why add insults to injuries?!


Budda57 said:
Today I got the itch to find her on Facebook and I was successful. I added her as a friend. Within 30 minutes I got a message saying "hey cutie, how are you?" So I wrote her a message asking if she was still in town? I haven't got a reply bad yet.

What do you guys thing? Is she interested or is my mind playing games?
So this girl rejects you yet you try again like a slobbering dog for option number 3, after option 1 (ONS) and option 2(number) flow out the window. As for Facebook, this girl has probably over 20-30 guys on it that are trying to ask her out and by settling for this kind of approach, you are no better then them and have an equal or less chance to date her since you striked out in the club. It is most likely she is now toying with you and using you to stroke her ego because you give her what she craves for and that is attension.

I say forget about her and next time don't blow it in your approach and quit while you are ahead.
 

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She was just screwing with me. I saw her in my spinning class and got her number. We are going out Wednesday.

Any suggestion how not to **** up and good thing.
 

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Budda57 said:
She was just screwing with me. I saw her in my spinning class and got her number. We are going out Wednesday.

Any suggestion how not to **** up and good thing.
dont worry about ****ing up. jus keep ur cool and if she tries to pull anymore crap, dont sit there and go along with it like a wimp. call her out on it an make her go with ur flow. if she doesnt, get rid of her.
frankly, if a chick did all that, i wouldnt be trying to get involved with her. idk about u, but that's me. i can smell the drama from here bro.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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