"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is she interested or is my mind playing games

Budda57

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I was out at the dance clubs/bar this weekend. I was walking around to see who was there and all of the sudden I feel this hand on my butt!! I look back and I see the girl trying to run away. I catch up to her and start talking. We hit it off and end up dancing most the night together. As the night was ending as we dancing, I asks her if she want to leave with me. I got denied badly but I kind of thought it would happen. (I figured I had to try because things between us were going so well) I told her I had to leave (to be up early in the morning because of my firefighting academy) and so I ask for her phone number and she says NO...?

Today I got the itch to find her on Facebook and I was successful. I added her as a friend. Within 30 minutes I got a message saying "hey cutie, how are you?" So I wrote her a message asking if she was still in town? I haven't got a reply bad yet.

What do you guys thing? Is she interested or is my mind playing games?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Budda57 said:
As the night was ending as we dancing, I asks her if she want to leave with me. I got denied badly but I kind of thought it would happen. (I figured I had to try because things between us were going so well)
Every heard of "stop while you are ahead"? You wasted an entire night dancing with this girl and then put everything on the table for a ONS. You would have been much more successful if you danced and chatted with her a bit and left on a high note and not waited until the end of the night on a low note. When you leave on a high note it makes them want more and its the perfect time to ask her for her number. As for ONS if you suggest or hint that and the girl says no then it is highly unlikely you will see her again since her anti-slvt defence will be up and her initial interest in you will be lowered.

Budda57 said:
I told her I had to leave (to be up early in the morning because of my firefighting academy) and so I ask for her phone number and she says NO...?

She already rejected you buddy why add insults to injuries?!


Budda57 said:
Today I got the itch to find her on Facebook and I was successful. I added her as a friend. Within 30 minutes I got a message saying "hey cutie, how are you?" So I wrote her a message asking if she was still in town? I haven't got a reply bad yet.

What do you guys thing? Is she interested or is my mind playing games?
So this girl rejects you yet you try again like a slobbering dog for option number 3, after option 1 (ONS) and option 2(number) flow out the window. As for Facebook, this girl has probably over 20-30 guys on it that are trying to ask her out and by settling for this kind of approach, you are no better then them and have an equal or less chance to date her since you striked out in the club. It is most likely she is now toying with you and using you to stroke her ego because you give her what she craves for and that is attension.

I say forget about her and next time don't blow it in your approach and quit while you are ahead.
 

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She was just screwing with me. I saw her in my spinning class and got her number. We are going out Wednesday.

Any suggestion how not to **** up and good thing.
 

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Budda57 said:
She was just screwing with me. I saw her in my spinning class and got her number. We are going out Wednesday.

Any suggestion how not to **** up and good thing.
dont worry about ****ing up. jus keep ur cool and if she tries to pull anymore crap, dont sit there and go along with it like a wimp. call her out on it an make her go with ur flow. if she doesnt, get rid of her.
frankly, if a chick did all that, i wouldnt be trying to get involved with her. idk about u, but that's me. i can smell the drama from here bro.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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