"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is she in or is she out?

homey72

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Ok fellas I need some help. I've been seeing this girl that's about 8 years younger than me, 24 year old to be exact. I understand that there is a measure of flakiness that goes with that age group so I know to expect that stuff. Anyway, after about 6 weeks of on again off again give and take we have a talk about what we're doing, her choice, so we decided that we'll have a somewhat exclusive deal. No shagging of anyone else. So here's the deal, today she's like I don't want to shag anyone else but I would still like to date other people.

I usually have about 2-3 girls going at the same time but I really got into this one. I've put the other two at this point on hold. To be quite honest, they're fun and all but I know there is nothing and will be nothing there ever. This other one however has sort of grabbed me and I would stop being with other girls for her. However, this other dating thing is disturbing.

I basically told her that if I am going to stop shagging other chicks then I need her to do the same. I guess the question is pretty simple, if she still wants to date other men do I next her? To be quite honest I don't think I can have a casual sex thing with her. I know she would be cool with that but I wouldn't. More importantly, giving up shagging other women is much more of a commitment on the guys part than the girls. The amount of time she would have to invest in getting another dude would be a lot less than the amount of time I would have to invest in restocking the stable so to speak.

I'm looking for all options fellas. Help a homeboy out.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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