"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PectoralisMajor

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After a week of not seeing each other, due to work commitments, we're both back and are heading out for a curry tonight at a restaurant.

She's acting a little sheepish on the phone, as if she's hiding something. she was out last night with her friends from work ( plenty of guys), and she never texted at the end of the night to say she was back safe, nor phoned in the morning - problem n01

Maybe she is dissapointed I didnt make tghe effort to go out for drinks last night with her & friends, but I was goosed from a business trip and my banter would have suffered ha.

So we've arranged this evening, and I said, aww, you dont sound that excited baby' and she says, she has a lot on her plate * RED FLAG if I ever saw one.

Now ok, she is hungover, and tired, but she's not responding the way you'd expect after being apart for a week..

my thoughts, she's thinking about another guy she works with..because she never even mentioned the guys on the phone till i said ' were the boys out', hence keeping my attention away from it.

Rekon i'm fairly on the mark with this this one as to whats happening..what do you guys think?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PectoralisMajor said:
After a week of not seeing each other, due to work commitments, we're both back and are heading out for a curry tonight at a restaurant.

She's acting a little sheepish on the phone, as if she's hiding something. she was out last night with her friends from work ( plenty of guys), and she never texted at the end of the night to say she was back safe, nor phoned in the morning - problem n01

Maybe she is dissapointed I didnt make tghe effort to go out for drinks last night with her & friends, but I was goosed from a business trip and my banter would have suffered ha.

So we've arranged this evening, and I said, aww, you dont sound that excited baby' and she says, she has a lot on her plate * RED FLAG if I ever saw one.

Now ok, she is hungover, and tired, but she's not responding the way you'd expect after being apart for a week..

my thoughts, she's thinking about another guy she works with..because she never even mentioned the guys on the phone till i said ' were the boys out', hence keeping my attention away from it.

Rekon i'm fairly on the mark with this this one as to whats happening..what do you guys think?
Like danger said, trust your gut. If a man suspects his woman, most of the time he is right. More importantly, she hasn't seen you in a week, and if she is acting funny and unexcited, then its time to do a little bit of detective work! Or if you are sure, that she is defn upto some dirty cow work, you relax and show her that you are enjoying your life!
 

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PectoralisMajor said:
After a week of not seeing each other, due to work commitments, we're both back and are heading out for a curry tonight at a restaurant.

She's acting a little sheepish on the phone, as if she's hiding something. she was out last night with her friends from work ( plenty of guys), and she never texted at the end of the night to say she was back safe, nor phoned in the morning - problem n01

Does she usually text you when she gets home or in the morning? My GF always does and if she went to a party one night and I didn't recieve one. I would be suspicious too...

Maybe she is dissapointed I didnt make tghe effort to go out for drinks last night with her & friends, but I was goosed from a business trip and my banter would have suffered ha.

Yup women can get butt hurt over the smallest things.

So we've arranged this evening, and I said, aww, you dont sound that excited baby' and she says, she has a lot on her plate * RED FLAG if I ever saw one.

Yes, this can be a red flag. But, until you are sure don't trip out too much.

Now ok, she is hungover, and tired, but she's not responding the way you'd expect after being apart for a week..

You should show up at her place and see how she reacts.

my thoughts, she's thinking about another guy she works with..because she never even mentioned the guys on the phone till i said ' were the boys out', hence keeping my attention away from it.

Rekon i'm fairly on the mark with this this one as to whats happening..what do you guys think?
I would get more to the bottom of this before you make your mind up.
 

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Edit: Double post...
 

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A lot of times your suspicions can be right, but make sure you get to the bottom of it before confronting her on the subject. See how dinner goes.. see if she's the same way sexually as she always is. Ask her about her past week and if she's a little sketchy, then you may have something on your hands.

Don't be rash, but be firm if you discover something.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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