Is she gaming me? Or is she just hesitant?

Smartone84

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Hey guys. Back here with an update of sorts to a plate I thought I smashed weeks ago, but here's the quick summary...
Met girl online. Spoke nonstop for a week. Endless stuff in common. Good vibes/conversation. Was truly looking forward to an online date for the first time in a long time. We meet on a Sunday afternoon, have a great 2.5 hour date where she even friends me on Facebook at the end of the date! She texts me after that she had fun. We text that night. The next day, Monday, she comes to me. Tuesday, she comes to ME. I then ask if she's free for a call and she says she's busy. No texting all night for the first time since number closing. Wednesday i text her and ask her out for dinner for the weekend. She tells me sure but a lunch "would work better". I tell her ok Sunday is fine and to let me know what time and she simply says "ok". No big texting that night again.

Friday she blows me off, stating that she DID have fun with me, and DID want to go on a second date, but that i "remind" her "a lot" of her ex, and she couldn't ignore it. Here's the interesting part.... Facebook photos (from when she was dating this guy over two years ago) show that I actually look a LOT like her ex bf. I really kind of liked this girl though. So two weeks go by and I think well, i have nothing to lose, so let me say hello and see how it goes, and see if this really is dead in the water or not. So this past Monday, I text her.

She responds with this HUGE upbeat, nice, warm text response and then asks how my life has been the last few weeks. I respond to her 15 minutes later (with a question) around 7:30pm at night this past Monday. NO RESPONSE. Again, she RESPONDS to me with a great text, and then goes silent. She also posts on facebook during this time which lead me to believe was one last FU to me to maybe let me know she wasn't texting me back. Who knows. Tuesday I delete her from my facebook and officially smash the plate in my mind.

WEDNESDAY NIGHT - 6PM - SHE RESPONDS TO MY QUESTION! NO EXPLANATION GIVEN AS TO WHY SHE WAS RESPONDING NEARLY 48 HOURS LATER!!!. I say "I thought someone may have lost their phone...". She says she's sorry but was very busy Tuesday night and then Weds she had a bad day. Yokayyyy. My ass. i text her back one more time to a question she asked and then went cold. She then texts me Thursday MORNING a few times talking about something mentioned in my last text. ALL of my texts go without a question and without any special comments. Nothing Thursday night.

Friday comes and i think to myself , ok let me send her one thing to see what happens. I send her a Happy Friday MEME text in the morning. No response until Friday night, 8:30pm, when she responds simply with three thumbs up emoji's.

So guys, what exactly is going on with this chick?

A) She's whacked

B) She's just toying with me for attention

C) In the back of her head she legitimately DOES like me as she almost kind of admitted originally during the blowoff, but is super hesitant bc of the ex-bf look alike factor

D) Other
 
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You've already posted about this chick 2-3 weeks ago. NOTHING has changed! FORGET about HER already and find new prospects that are interested! Seriously man she is a waste of time.

Moving forward NO fvcking dinner dates until you get some action first.

Oh and start reading the DJ bible.
 

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I actually agree with you 100% but was honestly just posting just out of curiosity to see everyones thoughts
 

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She's trying to turn you into an orbiter.

im glad you reposted, I wanted to tell you a few things.

Maybe the fellas here will disagree with me but, I think it's very bad form to FB friend any female you dont know well. For me, I keep my FB private to only people I know in real life. I never accept random friend requests. It' not my style, feels intrusive, I dont know you and my family is on my FB. No way im exposing a stranger to them.

I dont think you should be friending anyone you went on a few dates with. Save the friending for after the LTR talk. way, waaaaayyyyy later. quick friending on FB feels lie overtexting - you leave no mystery. I also think you over texted her way too early. Not too mention, the more you text before you get together, the more the other person builds up this false image of you in their mind - how perfect you are for them - then they are inevitable let down when they actually meet you.

SAVE the conversation for the actual date. Again, I feel like you left no mystery about yourself with her. Women want to feel compelled to ask you questions and get to know you.

Circling back around to the original question, I think she's trying to turn you into an orbiter. Stop texting her. Move on.
 

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As long as you know that she facebook requested ME, at the table, at the end of the date. I did actually think it was over the top, but what was I going to say? No?
I don't know. I felt like I had no choice. Yes i probably gave away all my remaining mystery with that which was an issue, but if a 29 year old girl is going to drop me bc of that, then i dont want her anyway. Too old for that kind of nonsense.
 

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I actually agree with you 100% but was honestly just posting just out of curiosity to see everyones thoughts

Listen I can certainly understand where she is coming from, you looking like her ex.
My ex wf was a red head. So every redhead I've dated since then has kind of reminded me of my ex wf. I didn't really care for it either.

Instead of wallowing in this thought of why this or that, just seriously do yourself a favor and move on. It's not healthy to fixate on any 1 broad, especially if she isn't acknowledging your existence.

Side note:
You text a chick in the am and she responds 12hrs later. That's a hint she isn't interested.
 

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She's trying to turn you into an orbiter.

im glad you reposted, I wanted to tell you a few things.
Maybe the fellas here will disagree with me but, I think it's very bad form to FB friend any female you dont know well. For me, I keep my FB private to only people I know in real life. I never accept random friend requests.
She did flake on his lunch invite so it doesn't even sound like she wants him as an orbiter.

YES absolutely AGREE! I've flat out told woman nope I don't really use it anyway. It's for close friends and or family. They can't find my profile anyway.
 

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Side note:
You text a chick in the am and she responds 12hrs later. That's a hint she isn't interested
Without a doubt. But then its like why would she have had any business texting me Thursday morning SEVERAL times? Believe me I'm just about completely over this chick now, I just thought it would be fun to try and decode whatever game this girl is playing.
 

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As long as you know that she facebook requested ME, at the table, at the end of the date. I did actually think it was over the top, but what was I going to say? No?
I don't know. I felt like I had no choice. Yes i probably gave away all my remaining mystery with that which was an issue, but if a 29 year old girl is going to drop me bc of that, then i dont want her anyway. Too old for that kind of nonsense.
Yes, just say NO. "Thanks for the friend request but I like to get to kow people before I add them. Here's my snapchat" (this way she can send you better stuff)

Legit, u never know how crazy people will get. She could have grabbed gay porn, cut off the heads, tagged you, and posted it to your account. I dont see why telling some (legit) rando "I'm happy to add u on snap chat but I like to get to know ppl before I friend them on FB" would be so much of an issue. If she cant respect you out of the gate, you've already got a good idea of her maturity level and if she is going to respect your desires.

Stop worrying that saying no to a FB friend request is going to kill your chances of getting pvssy. Keep the mystery.

Chicks want FB access so they can creep who you really are, anyways.

Without a doubt. But then its like why would she have had any business texting me Thursday morning SEVERAL times? Believe me I'm just about completely over this chick now, I just thought it would be fun to try and decode whatever game this girl is playing.
She's trying to see if she can string you along.
 

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Ditch this b**ch and move on! Wanna be an orbiter? Then just keep talking to her.

This is why I don't accept requests from chicks on Facebook or any platform. To be turned into an e-orbiter? F**k that!
 

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Too much too fast. Not enough mystery. Not enough of a challenge. For a woman to stay attracted she must miss you, and you never gave her that opportunity.

Her delayed texts mean her interest level is very low.
 

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Have you even hit it yet? Never will understand men who get SO obsessed with a woman who they havent even slept with yet.
 
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