Is she flaking, cheating, or spinning?

Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Observer

New Member

Aug 23, 2006

Dear Bill
why do you want this girl at all?
You said it yourself she she has -90 points on your scale. Would you really like to win that girl and than to stay with her?! I don't think so, neither do you. So why are you trying so much... Its your huge ego that make you run to win. The only problem is that the price is so poor. So you are not trying to win her, but more to satisfy your ego by winning her. In this case winning is loosing, but on the other hand loosing her is winning. So if you wonna win in this situation, just win your ego and move away from her. Do not think, do not even post about her... NEXT

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.