Is sex too overrated?

[BeExcellent]

I’m with Pierce and Amsterdam on this one. Sexuality is complex and I personally find value in it on various fronts (physical, psychological, spiritual, intimacy etc.)

A healthy sex life bonds people in a good way and confers meaningfulness to a healthy interaction. It is a means of expression and a means of pleasure.

If sex is readily available one will partake or refrain according to his or her own values and beliefs, and those are individually varied.

Frankly one of the things I most enjoy about married life is sex on tap with the man I love and who I find terribly sexy. But not everyone shares that perspective.

 

[BadBoy89]

I have had a very active sex life. There was a time a few years ago when I was kinda addicted to sex. Was doing it almost every weekend, sometimes even every day. I'm in my mid-30s now, unmarried. And do have sex occasionally. Like once or twice a month.

But the reason I ask this question is, why is sex so overhyped? I mean it's fun and everything, but gets boring really quickly. I haven't kept a lay count, could have reached 100 maybe.

You are in your mid-30s, so you don't care that much. Generally, sex is really really important when the man is young. Why? Yes, his testosterone is higher, but I think it's mainly because he's on the same "level playing field as other men". The sex is also not transactional when the man is young, so it's very very important for him. Also, the women are younger and more fertile, less partners. He wants to get in there before other men do.

When a man gets older, the sex starts to become transactional, so he could live without it much easier. His patience also goes down, his testosterone also goes down, and the woman he's after has already been up by the genetically blessed guys, so he cares even less.

But why is sex so overrated? It's not like anyone gains any special insight after having sex. But it's so prevalent in society, in movies or TV shows, and for some people in this forum, it's like the only goal in life.

It's prevalent is society, in movies and tv because its the one thing that men want and can't get easily. So they have to play it as much as they can. This way, men will spend more money for them in order to get sex. Everything the media does is designed to get to a man's emotions. And the one thing that gets to a man's emotions, is sex with young hot women. This is the fantasy the media plays up over and over and over again.

Everything in life, a man has and is expected to build himself. Money, House, Car, Buildings, Electricity, Clean Water, Heat, Planes, Trains, etc, etc. The one thing, the only thing men can't get themselves, is sex with a hot young woman. The media knows this, they have to play it up

 

[Millard Fillmore]

Well, it's like Pook said years ago. Too much of the focus today is on intercourse and sex is much more than that.

That is a great way to put it and the first time I've read it that way.

OP, sex is overrated as an accomplishment or source of validation or cheap form of entertainment. It's pushed on us constantly through ads and ad-driven media. Conversely it used to be (and still is in some places) heavily suppressed, for the same reason, too much emphasis.

But circling back to the Pook quote, it's not overrated when one considers its prevalence outside of intercourse. Sex plays into billions actions and interactions every day, and not just with the people you might have sex with. Its undercurrents are everywhere.

For me where it's most enjoyable is when it bubbles to the surface, when there's real attraction. I tend to think of anticipation of sex as nearly as fun as a conquest.

The simple act of sex is a small part of it. It can be memorable too of course. But yeah that's why portrayals of intercourse are often called gratuitous.

 

[Epicenter]

Poosy makes the rat race called life going. It is an illusion so is life.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Sex is only overrated to Incels and guys struggling to get laid. There's a reason woman is willing to hold out from sex for a long time until the right guy or ex comes along.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Sex with me is never overrated for any woman. It's one of the best experiences they will ever have.

 

[The Duke]

Wow, I had no idea sex could be boring or overrated. How so?
I've done all sorts of crazy things in all sorts of places. I've had a few girls that didn't impress me but I never fuhked them more than once.

Never had the p0rnstar experience with a girl?

 

[RSDCharlie]

Wow, I had no idea sex could be boring or overrated. How so?
I've done all sorts of crazy things in all sorts of places. I've had a few girls that didn't impress me but I never fuhked them more than once.

Never had the p0rnstar experience with a girl?

Oh I've had some really good experiences. ****, anal, bj...alot of it. The issue is it feels good in the moment. But after I've done it numerous times, it feels kinda empty and bland. And honestly I felt having regular sex didnt make me have any insights like they show in movies. The way they portray sex in the media, it feels like it's the ultimate goal. But that's far from the truth.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Everyone’s posts should have “for me” appended to the end.

 

[Epicenter]

Everyone’s posts should have “for me” appended to the end.

Not when you generalize. You can't say flat earth theory is true for me.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Not when you generalize. You can't say flat earth theory is true for me.

Thats precisely why it should be appended, in my opinion.

 

[Epicenter]

Thats precisely why it should be appended, in my opinion.

That is anti intellectual. This proves the topic is funnier than you make it out to be.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Not sure we're participating in the same discussion.

That is anti intellectual. This proves the topic is funnier than you make it out to be.

 

[Epicenter]

Not sure we're participating in the same discussion.

I asked Bard about Epikur about this topic:

Epicurus was a Greek philosopher who lived in the 3rd century B.C. He believed that pleasure was the highest good and that people should strive to live a life of moderation and simplicity. He also believed that people should avoid excessive pleasures, such as sex, because they could lead to pain and suffering.

So, what would Epicurus say about sex in the US? He would likely say that it is overhyped and that Americans are too obsessed with it. He would also say that Americans are too focused on short-term pleasures and not enough on long-term happiness.

However, it is important to note that Epicurus was not advocating for complete abstinence from sex. He believed that sex could be enjoyed as part of a balanced and moderate life. He simply cautioned against excessive indulgence.

Ultimately, whether or not sex is overhyped in the US is a matter of personal opinion. There is no right or wrong answer. However, it is helpful to consider Epicurus's perspective on pleasure and moderation when thinking about this issue