You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Man, porsche's are cheap. You're talking a $700-$1000+ new car payment. Almost anybody could afford a porsche if they wanted to. Maybe if you're talking Ferrarri, then that is out of the reach of most people. Around $5k/mo.sparky0000 said:Few if any of you are getting Porsches. Especially if you are living in America. Most of you are getting Ford Pintos. Old ones that have been driven by 5 or 6 other dudes before you ever got behind the wheel. The odds of getting to drive a new "Porsche" in the USA is slim to none. You gotta go where "Porsches" are produced (I ain't talking about Germany), and where they are really cheap. Think about that for a second.
Paying cash for a new car is a horrible financial decision unless you plan to keep it for at least 3-5 years. People who could afford a six figure car, like myself, shouldn't be stupid enough to pay cash for it.backbreaker said:if you are paying 5k a month for a car, you out to be slapped. People who buy 100k cars BUY them outright.
that topic is getting WAY offhand
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Others have touched on this already, but here's my experience.ElStud said:Just wondering man, is sex really all that better than your right hand? I'm asking because lately I haven't gotten much satisfaction out of jacking it. Infact, it's starting to get to the point where I'm asking myself, "If this is the reward? Is it really that great?". I mean sure dude, getting it up and everything is great, but after that, you just don't feel any satisfaction. It's a feeling like "I did all that... for this?". I'm just really wondering, is sex that much better than your right hand?
I'm with you on that.STR8UP said:Great sex with a woman who you are physically and emotionally into is a wonderful thing.
Anything else isn't much better than the hand. And a lot more work too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.