Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Man, porsche's are cheap. You're talking a $700-$1000+ new car payment. Almost anybody could afford a porsche if they wanted to. Maybe if you're talking Ferrarri, then that is out of the reach of most people. Around $5k/mo.sparky0000 said:Few if any of you are getting Porsches. Especially if you are living in America. Most of you are getting Ford Pintos. Old ones that have been driven by 5 or 6 other dudes before you ever got behind the wheel. The odds of getting to drive a new "Porsche" in the USA is slim to none. You gotta go where "Porsches" are produced (I ain't talking about Germany), and where they are really cheap. Think about that for a second.
Paying cash for a new car is a horrible financial decision unless you plan to keep it for at least 3-5 years. People who could afford a six figure car, like myself, shouldn't be stupid enough to pay cash for it.backbreaker said:if you are paying 5k a month for a car, you out to be slapped. People who buy 100k cars BUY them outright.
that topic is getting WAY offhand
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Others have touched on this already, but here's my experience.ElStud said:Just wondering man, is sex really all that better than your right hand? I'm asking because lately I haven't gotten much satisfaction out of jacking it. Infact, it's starting to get to the point where I'm asking myself, "If this is the reward? Is it really that great?". I mean sure dude, getting it up and everything is great, but after that, you just don't feel any satisfaction. It's a feeling like "I did all that... for this?". I'm just really wondering, is sex that much better than your right hand?
I'm with you on that.STR8UP said:Great sex with a woman who you are physically and emotionally into is a wonderful thing.
Anything else isn't much better than the hand. And a lot more work too.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.