Is sex overrated ?

[Murk]

Yes, that's why I made a thread asking how to spice it up.

Get more adventurous, sex is better for me when mentally connected to a girl too.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No...I am trying to punish her, give her more orgasms and fvck her better than she ever has been fvcked before every time..

New positions, new places, experimentation, sexual fantasies...

Seems some of you need to do some work in this department...if it gets "old and boring" it's because you allowed it to.

 

[Bingo-Player]

No, sex is not overrated. Sex is the best feeling I've experienced in my life.

You can't be having enough then

 

[Bingo-Player]

No...I am trying to punish her, give her more orgasms and fvck her better than she ever has been fvcked before every time..

New positions, new places, experimentation, sexual fantasies...

Seems some of you need to do some work in this department...if it gets "old and boring" it's because you allowed it to.

This is just macho nonsense though and been mentioned a couple of times from guys who watch too much p0rn

Also the kind of answer i specifically wanted to avoid

I have friends who think they are gods gift in the sack and most of them have been cheated on or dumped

Physically A d1ck goes in and comes out until climax the rest of the satisfaction is almost entirely phycological for both of you

Everyones unique my brain operates on a higher level than basic primal instinct / satisfaction triggers

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[Bingo-Player]

Yes, that's why I made a thread asking how to spice it up.

Get more adventurous, sex is better for me when mentally connected to a girl too.

More constructed nonsense spouted by psuedo sex therapists designed to make people feel like they need to "discover" some secret or pay for some coaching to have better sex

Again D1ck goes in and d1ck comes out until climax

Any "spice" you may want to add is purely through your perception of sexual desire

 

[Alvafe]

I wanted to put this in mature man because i am hoping for answers from 30+

I am 30 now and have to admit the novelty of familiar sex is starting to wain for me

Most of the thrill for me is in the hunt it always has been ....getting her to submiss into your bed

But once that novelty wears off and you start entering that familiar territory with a girl ,sex is just starting to feel like going through the motions

Does anyone else fell similarly ?

Feel like its one of them topics that the manosphere is tabooed from speaking about.....

yes sex for men most of time is the ego trip, with woman get with the attention.

but thing is we also need sex in a physical term, older you get it become less required, but it also depend on each person, my libido still is the same as on my 20 and i'm almost 40, and its annoying most of time, because you feel the need to get woman and I still consider it a waste of time

 

[Bingo-Player]

It's clear a few ego's will not allow them to answer the question truthfully

This isn't really something you can sit on the fence on

at 30 i've firmly determined it IS overrated and ive done some nasty sh1t with women

But as others have mentioned when you go on a dry spell the mind starts play tricks

Once the illusions worn off and you take some time to think about it , it really does become a case of

"was that it "

 

[Bingo-Player]

yes sex for men most of time is the ego trip, with woman get with the attention.

Yes precisely this , you can see some egos in the responses to this thread

 

[Murk]

More constructed nonsense spouted by psuedo sex therapists designed to make people feel like they need to "discover" some secret or pay for some coaching to have better sex

Again D1ck goes in and d1ck comes out until climax

Any "spice" you may want to add is purely through your perception of sexual desire

Different strokes for different folks. Surely you know that at your age.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I guess it depends. Sex itself is great, and with the right woman it can get better every time you do it with her.

But if you're doing it just to increase your notch count and feed your ego, that's going to eventually burn you out because there is no way to satisfy you ego. Then you're stuck, addicted to something that has become meaningless.

This is another age-old adage large swathes of society desperately wants you to believe

but if you look in day to day reality how many couples do you know that are still having "amazing" (and i use that term very loosely) sex
3/5/10 years down the line ?

I would bet everything i have on that figure being less than 1% , the split / divorce rate probably 50x higher which tells me everything i really need to know

Society wants you to believe that there is constantly something you to be searching for something that in reality is a fallacy

 

[Bingo-Player]

The "sex toy" , "sex therapy" and sex counselling marketplaces

Huge money industries

Where do you think these came from......

 

[HaleyBaron]

I wanted to put this in mature man because i am hoping for answers from 30+

I am 30 now and have to admit the novelty of familiar sex is starting to wain for me

Most of the thrill for me is in the hunt it always has been ....getting her to submiss into your bed

But once that novelty wears off and you start entering that familiar territory with a girl ,sex is just starting to feel like going through the motions

Does anyone else fell similarly ?

Feel like its one of them topics that the manosphere is tabooed from speaking about.....

Nope. I like sex. I'm sure I'll be one of those old guys using viagra before I die, too.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

This is just macho nonsense though and been mentioned a couple of times from guys who watch too much p0rn

Also the kind of answer i specifically wanted to avoid

I have friends who think they are gods gift in the sack and most of them have been cheated on or dumped

Physically A d1ck goes in and comes out until climax the rest of the satisfaction is almost entirely phycological for both of you

Everyones unique my brain operates on a higher level than basic primal instinct / satisfaction triggers

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I would agree that "fvck game" is kind of overrated and I don't doubt all guys think they're the A+++ in the sack.

I mean, her enjoyment of the sex is based mostly off how much she likes you, and psychology, not on things like technique. I do pretty much the exact same **** with all women and their responses to it vary wildly and are strongly correlated with how they act around me outside the bedroom (for instance their physical attraction to me and submissiveness), although there are other factors I'm sure such as their overall sex drive.

All that said I would be remiss if I pretended that ****ing them good makes no difference - it can only help (as long as you're not trying TOO hard to please her).

 

[sangheilios]

@Bingo-Player

The reality is the majority of men go through flaming hoops like a circus clown at even the slightest chance of being able to "bed" a woman. In addition to this, these men are also doing this with women that are average or below, so we aren't talking some insanely hot maxim model or some nonsense like that. Most men are simps, so factoring the amount of time and energy they put into courting women that aren't even guaranteed to reciprocate any interest, so it's an uphill battle. To top this all off, not only are most of these women average or below but the sex you have with these women will be like this as well, a lot of women don't even know to perform a proper bj for instance.

There's a reason why prostitution, strip clubs and porn are a part of our society. One thing that most men genuinely crave is an attractive woman that is sexually available to them, who also is into them as well. This does exist but is not common and I feel one of the reason why so many men have issues with the dating market, it doesn't help when even landwhales feel entitled to the fittest guy at the gym. A phrase that comes to mind is "post nut clarity". Basically the idea is that once a man climaxes he is able to think rationally and realizes all of the mistakes he's made for basically just a relatively short period of satisfaction and instant gratification, only for his life to go back to being the way it was before, though possibly worse depending upon how he got to this point in the first place.

 

[ubercat]

Wow this thread looks like an explosion in a red herring factory. That dumb as a sack of hammers guy must be a real joy to know. I m old so I LL just tell truth. In an ltr it's like filling up the car overrated or not you have to do it. With STR chick depends on hotness to annoying ratio. I think sex starts to go from amazing to nice like a good steak around your 20th chick. By that time your male logic should tell you there never will be a pvssy famine.

 

[jnMissouri]

If it's raw, the girl has a perfect body and a tight *****, and is good at sex and highly turned on by you, then no it's not overrated.

Otherwise, yes it's very overrated. After I nut the first time I usually can't even go for 15 minutes without getting bored and stopping mid-****, unless I give myself a few hours inbetween each session.

Sex means nothing to me.

To an extent what this guy says in his first sentence is true. But I'll also say, some of the hottest women are lame in bed. Not all but some. My ex was super hot and phenomenal in bed. As good as the sex was, it was still overrated. What it really was about was bragging rights and validation "I'm banging this hot chic". Even my friends who told me she was nuts and to run when I told them about our issues, as soon as I sent them a picture of her they'd be like holy crap, try to work it out with her man...Why did I stay? The validation...she turned heads everywhere and it felt good to know I got to **** her every night...

 

[sangheilios]

To an extent what this guy says in his first sentence is true. But I'll also say, some of the hottest women are lame in bed. Not all but some. My ex was super hot and phenomenal in bed. As good as the sex was, it was still overrated. What it really was about was bragging rights and validation "I'm banging this hot chic". Even my friends who told me she was nuts and to run when I told them about our issues, as soon as I sent them a picture of her they'd be like holy crap, try to work it out with her man...Why did I stay? The validation...she turned heads everywhere and it felt good to know I got to **** her every night...

I remember watching this interview with porn star Nikki Benz a while ago, she personally did nothing for me but she mentioned something that was interesting. She said that early in her career she was in a relationship with a man that seemed to love showing her off, so encouraging her to dress provocatively when out in public to garner a ton of attention. She said that she felt that he got some sort of personal satisfaction from the amount of attention, particularly from other men, that she attract. As you mentioned, it's highly validating for a man to be with an attractive woman. There's a reason why terms like "trophy wife" or "arm candy" exist. I feel it's a sign of power, showing up to a party with some fat slob will make you look like a loser for instance but with a hot woman you know other men will be envious.

 

[Smok1nAce]

With the right women. No sex is not overrated.

the problem you having is your standards are changing, hopefully getting better. You view sex with the average women as, …meh.

im in the same boat. In my teens and early 20s as long as the girl passed the boner test, the sex was exciting. When I turned 30 it was almost like a switch that made me start to think with my big head instead of little head.

Intimate sex feels good and is nesasary for bonding but casual sex is overrated. Not to the degree of stupidity but to degree of pointless. (Especially to a man with purpose)

but times are different, most women put on their adult weight (age 40+) by their mid teens, so yeah seeing a women naked just ain’t what it used to be.

if your 35+ and you still view sex as some life changing experience that is life’s pursuit, the only thing that matters in life and are still running around trying to get laid I would think their was something wrong with you.

from my experience most sex for men and women comes down to validation.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I wanted to put this in mature man because i am hoping for answers from 30+

I am 30 now and have to admit the novelty of familiar sex is starting to wain for me

Most of the thrill for me is in the hunt it always has been ....getting her to submiss into your bed

But once that novelty wears off and you start entering that familiar territory with a girl ,sex is just starting to feel like going through the motions

Does anyone else fell similarly ?

Feel like its one of them topics that the manosphere is tabooed from speaking about.....

Society is so effed up that alot of it is degrading with you to have to do and deal with. There are other cultures.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I remember watching this interview with porn star Nikki Benz a while ago, she personally did nothing for me but she mentioned something that was interesting. She said that early in her career she was in a relationship with a man that seemed to love showing her off, so encouraging her to dress provocatively when out in public to garner a ton of attention. She said that she felt that he got some sort of personal satisfaction from the amount of attention, particularly from other men, that she attract. As you mentioned, it's highly validating for a man to be with an attractive woman. There's a reason why terms like "trophy wife" or "arm candy" exist. I feel it's a sign of power, showing up to a party with some fat slob will make you look like a loser for instance but with a hot woman you know other men will be envious.

Other men should be "envious", but if she is disrespectful enough she can make you look worse than without her!