"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is sex meaningless?

slitherjef

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The primary function of sex is to spread your seed, but as humans, we are able to have casual sex or sex for fun what ever you want to call it, so aside from just spreading your seed, is casual sex just meaningless?

I always thought sex ment something. I was told by some chick that she would NOT have sex with me, I told her okay, besides I wanted the sex to mean something. Seriously, I said that to her.

I find it difficult to look at chicks for just sex. I look at chicks as girlfriend then sex. You know, date, date, date, get together then sex. It seems most people go date, sex then girlfriend or fb or what ever.

Huh!?
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonJuan11

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slitherjef said:
I was told by some chick that she would NOT have sex with me, I told her okay, besides I wanted the sex to mean something. Seriously, I said that to her.

LOL. It's good you agreed that you wouldn't have sex with her.
 

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I was told by some chick that she would NOT have sex with me, I told her okay

me too, me too...then I fvcked the hell out of her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Forms

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Procreation is one of the roles sex plays, but it is surely not the ONLY meaningful role sex can have. It can be meaningful by cementing a bond between two people. It can be fun in and of itself. It can also help to mantain the relationship you already have with a girlfriend or wife.

Desmond Morris wrote a book called the human zoo. If you haven't heard of Desmond Morris you should have. He's amazing. He's a zoologist/anthropologist who studies people as if they were any other animal. He had a really popular book a while back called the naked ape that was expressedly about all the main areas you would study about an animal, like its mating habits, its parenting skills et cetera.

The human zoo is all about how many of the things people do is analogous to similiar behavior that animals exhibit in zoos rather than animals in the wild. Hence, the book explains that many of our behaviors are not analogous to wild animals, but of caged animals. A human zoo. In this book he has a whole section devoted to all the different roles sex can help serve. I only listed a few above, but there were a good many. The whole book is amazing, and definately worth checking out. at abebooks.com you can get it for a dollar with 3 for shipping. BTW, abebooks.com is where you should be buying all of your books. The website is a godsend.
 

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Is casual sex meaningless

That's the question
On a large scale, yes it is meaningless outside of the fun factor. But so is a bunch of things. If you find that you like casual sex (as most men do), then go for it.

If you want to wait for something serious, then by all means.
 

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Rex Man said:
On a large scale, yes it is meaningless outside of the fun factor. But so is a bunch of things. If you find that you like casual sex (as most men do), then go for it.

If you want to wait for something serious, then by all means.
I usually make her wait just because I don't like the idea of having sex with a person that i may or may not like.

Not to say that I have not had sex with some girls that was just meaningless. Most of the time, I want relationship sex.

comic_relief
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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