"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is sex meaningless?

slitherjef

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The primary function of sex is to spread your seed, but as humans, we are able to have casual sex or sex for fun what ever you want to call it, so aside from just spreading your seed, is casual sex just meaningless?

I always thought sex ment something. I was told by some chick that she would NOT have sex with me, I told her okay, besides I wanted the sex to mean something. Seriously, I said that to her.

I find it difficult to look at chicks for just sex. I look at chicks as girlfriend then sex. You know, date, date, date, get together then sex. It seems most people go date, sex then girlfriend or fb or what ever.

Huh!?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DonJuan11

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slitherjef said:
I was told by some chick that she would NOT have sex with me, I told her okay, besides I wanted the sex to mean something. Seriously, I said that to her.

LOL. It's good you agreed that you wouldn't have sex with her.
 

Bible_Belt

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I was told by some chick that she would NOT have sex with me, I told her okay

me too, me too...then I fvcked the hell out of her.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

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Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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The Forms

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Procreation is one of the roles sex plays, but it is surely not the ONLY meaningful role sex can have. It can be meaningful by cementing a bond between two people. It can be fun in and of itself. It can also help to mantain the relationship you already have with a girlfriend or wife.

Desmond Morris wrote a book called the human zoo. If you haven't heard of Desmond Morris you should have. He's amazing. He's a zoologist/anthropologist who studies people as if they were any other animal. He had a really popular book a while back called the naked ape that was expressedly about all the main areas you would study about an animal, like its mating habits, its parenting skills et cetera.

The human zoo is all about how many of the things people do is analogous to similiar behavior that animals exhibit in zoos rather than animals in the wild. Hence, the book explains that many of our behaviors are not analogous to wild animals, but of caged animals. A human zoo. In this book he has a whole section devoted to all the different roles sex can help serve. I only listed a few above, but there were a good many. The whole book is amazing, and definately worth checking out. at abebooks.com you can get it for a dollar with 3 for shipping. BTW, abebooks.com is where you should be buying all of your books. The website is a godsend.
 

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Is casual sex meaningless

That's the question
On a large scale, yes it is meaningless outside of the fun factor. But so is a bunch of things. If you find that you like casual sex (as most men do), then go for it.

If you want to wait for something serious, then by all means.
 

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Rex Man said:
On a large scale, yes it is meaningless outside of the fun factor. But so is a bunch of things. If you find that you like casual sex (as most men do), then go for it.

If you want to wait for something serious, then by all means.
I usually make her wait just because I don't like the idea of having sex with a person that i may or may not like.

Not to say that I have not had sex with some girls that was just meaningless. Most of the time, I want relationship sex.

comic_relief
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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