"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is quitting your job and relocating too drastic?

sylvester the cat

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So I fell for a girl at work and it didn't work out too well.

despite initial IOIs, I asked her out and she said no regardless of whether she meant it or not.

i went NC but it's still a difficult atmosphere to be in the same room as her and to see her every day.

a friend offered me a job in another part of the country and i have decided to take him up on his offer. partly because of the girl and also because my current job has pretty much offered all its going to offer.

i feel a fresh start is necessary. but a part of me also hopes this girl will realise what she's going to miss and confess her undying love for me. lol.

if she doesnt, then fine. a fresh start is just what the doctor ordered. if she does, then, well...we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you WANT TO move, and take a new job, and enjoy a new environment then it sounds like a great opportunity. It could be great for you.

If you're doing it because some girl that you've never even dated rejected you, then it's one of the weakest things I've ever heard.
 

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Iceberg said:
If you WANT TO move, and take a new job, and enjoy a new environment then it sounds like a great opportunity. It could be great for you.

If you're doing it because some girl that you've never even dated rejected you, then it's one of the weakest things I've ever heard.
lol. well, yes i want out of this job as its going nowhere and i would like a fresh start.

but i would be lying if i said the awkwardness in the office wasn't a factor.
 

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Your career must come first. If you don't believe me, tell her you'll stay and be unemployed.

She should be willing to get on a plane to see you. If she isn't, she doesn't like you that much.
 

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bigneil said:
Your career must come first. If you don't believe me, tell her you'll stay and be unemployed.

She should be willing to get on a plane to see you. If she isn't, she doesn't like you that much.
well, exactly. the way i see it, i'm killing two birds with one stone (no pun intended).

a new career and we'll see how she truly feels about me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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sylvester the cat said:
well, exactly. the way i see it, i'm killing two birds with one stone (no pun intended).

a new career and we'll see how she truly feels about me.
See how she feels about you?

I'm sorry, is she your ex girlfriend from a 5-year relationship or just some girl who you asked on a date, and she rejected you?
 

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Iceberg said:
See how she feels about you?

I'm sorry, is she your ex girlfriend from a 5-year relationship or just some girl who you asked on a date, and she rejected you?
The latter. ;-)

I already know how the former feels.
 
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You have to take risks and gambles in life, so on that basis, I say go for it. Each and everyone of us needs a fresh start from time to time and you are no exception. If a friend of mine moved to another party and could me a job with him, I'd bite his hand off. I think you would have to be mad not to go for it.
 

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Move, but don't tell her about it. Let her find out through the grape vine.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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How about instead of thinking, "What if I move away and she suddenly starts liking me," thinking, "What if I move away and meet a NEW girl who actually says 'YES' when I ask her out?"

She didn't want to go out with you, therefore she won't miss you when you leave. Go get the money!
 
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