"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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is quiet/laid-back a bad thing?

donquijote

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ok theres this girl who tells me that i'm quiet a lot. She tells me I'm laid back and that she's never heard me yell or get really mad before. I don't know whether to take this as a good or bad thing but I'm guessing maybe its not the aggressive dominant behavior that most girls would be attracted to. I do joke around a lot though with her and my other friends, then she tells me that i'm mean. I'm guessing she's joking here but I dunno if she's implying something or what....women are confusing....
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i am me

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u can be laid back and not be shy at the same time, jus make sure she knows whos boss...
 

Kamikazi1231

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You don't have to be aggressive to be dominant. I know plenty of people that I would consider the alpha in their group and they are completely laid back. Think of all the gangster movies... the aggressive guys may be the muscle, but the alpha.. the boss is always the slick laid-back guy. You're a DJ. That means that your laid-back attitude is yours and you don't give a damn what anyone else thinks. That's confidence with laid-back. Like Luke!! said make sure you have that certain look in your eye that they know you can open up a can of whoop-ass if they push too far.
 
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