"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is PUA TACTICS better than DJ TACTICS for learning?

Cod3r

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I'll put it like this...

I started in the field using canned lines and openers just to give me some confidence and avoid the "wat do i say" trap of the mind. I got good feedback but I couldn't close for crap, after alot of approaches naturally I just progressed into closing after not thinking about it...

My natural game can close just fine... Before I walked away from the game, I was using situational openers and direct game, but of course throwing in lines from canned material I read because it works... don't hate on it...

things like, "can you cook?" or "awww ur bad news, ur names heather uh oh !" or "wow u remind me of the 'view' u girls are talkers aren't u ?" or "wats ur sign?" ect....

These things are great fillers and they make conversation exciting, its not robotic as my natural personality more cleverly feeds off their answers and they can go anywhere from there... Just approach and u'll be fine


-Cod3r
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Call_Me_Daddy said:
DJ is for pvssies and PUA is for dweebs.
You clearly do not understand what DJism is all about. It's not who you are or what you become. It's the life you live. It's just a label we apply to a certain lifestyle. There are many, many examples of DJs outside this community who have never visited this website. Read my article in my signature for a glimpse of what makes DJs different.

As for PUA, I don't even know what that acronym means. I never cared. I was a member of this community long before any of this other crap was invented.

Call_Me_Daddy said:
What ever happened to being a REAL man? Like the Billions BEFORE you?
You're right. You don't need much to get laid. You don't need much to get a girlfriend. Hell, you don't need much to get married. You can just be who you were born, develop as your environment allows, and live life without socializing with other guys for advice on life, success, and relationships. You don't need to live anything more than a basic, unfulfilling life to live and be relatively happy.

But that's the bare minimum. Some people want more than that. I want more than that. What makes DJs different is that we strive to achieve success beyond all boundaries. The bare minimum does not satiate our thirst. We are not complacent.
 

kickureface

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damn and i thought self improvement was key and that i should throw out pua tactics! wtF??!
 

Reyaj

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Im going to finish the approaches! its one of my goals I just havent had time to go out do it.

I agree with everything Brutus said. I too am making my own book of articles I find interesting as there is so much conflicting information here.

I will finish those approaches, I promise!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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