Is poontang the only real cure for male depression?

[MatureDJ]

I was watching this, and it got me interested:

 

[Billtx49]

Cure male depression? No, it’s only a momentary ejaculation of those bad feelings…

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Cure male depression? No, it’s only a momentary ejaculation of those bad feelings…

Sex intercourse is more than an ejaculation. Increasing feelings of esteem and confidence, decreasing stress and pain are some of the side effects. It also validates and adds to your masculinity.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I was watching this, and it got me interested:

Hes stuck on one aspect of confidence and motivation. There are sections of confidence and esteem which have NOTHING to do with women and sex.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is usually the mindset for guys in their 20s, guys still living at home, etc.

For men over 30, we know we have to be successful in every single area of life to be happy.

Theres No excuses, no one to listen to us complain, we can’t afford to play victim, etc. there’s only hard work.

You don't have to be successful in all areas of life to be happy. Happiness is a choice. 2 people in the exact same situation and exact same circumstances can have drastically different levels of happiness.

Additionally there is no single definition of success...what one person deems a wild success another would deem an epic failure.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Happiness is a touchy subject because the people who often preach about how to be happy are often miserable themselves. Or they are unsure and need others to validate their version of happiness.

So I’ll rephrase what I said so that I don’t project my own beliefs onto other people. For me personally, I’ve always had an insatiable desire to challenge myself. I become depressed when there is no challenge. Maybe it’s because I was raised by a super alpha father who always instilled the principles of greatness within me. But it’s part of my imprint. Its kind of what drove me to do thousands of approaches and become a dating coach of an entire city when I was 24. Did I had to do that? No, of course not. But it was genuine desire and passion.

And then my desire and passion for pickup completely disappeared. The same way a 6 year old kid becomes 7 and suddenly no longer wants to play with his G.I. joe toys, I was no longer interested in seduction. I had a sudden desire to make a difference in my community. So that’s what I’m doing now. Service to others makes me feel aligned with my greatest intentions and purpose.

I understand that not everyone feels this way. Perhaps it’s only unique to me, or maybe it’s universal, who knows. But I subscribe to Nick Saban’s philosophy in life. It doesn’t matter if you are a street sweeper, shoe shiner, or someone important in society. Do it to the best of your ability. Become great at what you are doing because that’s the ultimate expression of a human being. If everyone was great at what they did, no matter what it was, the world would probably be a better place.

I don’t like to use the word “happy.” I like to use the term “state friction” instead. I’ve found that when I ignore my responsibilities and calling/purpose in life, I experience massive state friction. And it has a profound effect. I feel anxiety, depression, it comes across in my vibe and women reject me, strangers sh1t on me out of nowhere, it’s amazing. It’s almost as if the whole world knows I’m not living up to par And treats me accordingly.

But then when I attack my responsibilities and purpose head on, that state friction disappears and I experience internal dominance. This is a state where I feel like I can’t lose, everything I touch turns into gold, I can’t get rejected or at least there’s no such thing as a dry spell with women, money shows up, random people are enamored by my charisma and presence, people are inspired by me, etc. This internal state eventually leads to more abundance, like an ecosystem of abundance, and ultimately contentment.

Keep in mind when I say abundance, I dont just mean Money. It’s more like I turn a corner and unexpectedly run into a beautiful woman whos on my wavelength. Or I have an opportunity for career advancement at the perfect time. Abundance is like synchronicity. When I am aligned with the universe and all of my intentions fall into place and become reality. And it all starts with internal dominance, which comes from taking care of my responsibilities and hard work.

Internal dominance is something that is more concrete to me then the term “happiness”. I’ve never looked at things from a Happiness vs depressed mindset. Those words dont have any real meaning to me.

The concepts I do understand and have fully experienced, however, are internal dominance, purpose, passion, genuine desire, state friction, abundance, synchronicity, and contentment.

Same here. It's as if my subconscious makes me feel like shiit when it senses I'm becoming complacent. Even something as simple as cleaning a room gets the momentum going again. Then I'll do some yoga or go for a run or repair something, and incrementally I complete more and more things, meet bigger and bigger goals, and remind myself of my strength, resilience, and flexibility, until I feel unstoppable, and the universe aligns with my momentum.

Too many men distract themselves with smoke, booze, or pusssy when they should be digging deep and crushing whatever they feel is their calling.

All it takes is treating those crap feelings as feedback and taking action, rather than identifying with them and doing nothing.

Sex alone is worthless. That's why there are crackheads willing to fuuck for $1.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

When I said earlier “you have to be successful at everything,” your post was what I meant. I didn’t mean money, cars, houses, etc. I meant on a personal level.

I have to take care of my health, my physical fitness, pursue my passions, develop a social life, meditate, my finances, help people in need, everything. Mind, body, and spirit. if I slack off in any area I feel tremendous state friction.

This is why I dont believe a person can be lost. Your subconscious mind literally shows you the roadmap. Whatever there is resistance is where you are supposed to attack. The obstacle is the way. I think people who claim they are lost are just suppressing their responsibilities. This is most people I know that are insecure and play victim. They hide under the guise of “I don’t know what to do with my life” when they know damn well what they need to do but are too much of a b1tch to do it.

"Whatever there is resistance is where you are supposed to attack." good one.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

When I said earlier “you have to be successful at everything,” your post was what I meant. I didn’t mean money, cars, houses, etc. I meant on a personal level.

I have to take care of my health, my physical fitness, pursue my passions, develop a social life, meditate, my finances, help people in need, everything. Mind, body, and spirit. if I slack off in any area I feel tremendous state friction.

This is why I dont believe a person can be lost. Your subconscious mind literally shows you the roadmap. Whatever there is resistance is where you are supposed to attack. The obstacle is the way. I think people who claim they are lost are just suppressing their responsibilities. This is most people I know that are insecure and play victim. They hide under the guise of “I don’t know what to do with my life” when they know damn well what they need to do but are too much of a b1tch to do it.

I would say most I've met have forgotten how to listen to their subconscious, they are well past neglecting it on purpose. But you're right... as long as they're alive it's still there...

Inside the brain there are two minds. One can only communicate with emotions in a non-serial way, the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is the cortex. Logical, serial, the cortex is constantly trying to interpret what the subconscious feeling mind is trying to express, and works to manifest that expression.

The subconscious is the true core, the true mystery that we spend our lives unravelling. The cortex is a slave to the subconscious, satisfying it as best it can. And in that struggle to satisfy we blossom.

This is all such common sense, yet extremely profound. Again the dichotomy presents itself...

 

[Romanemp22]

Depending on women for happiness in every or some aspects is a rocky hill road. You and things you do are your source of happiness. As someone said maintaining a good balance in life, doing good in all areas.

Getting laid or not doesn't determine mine happiness. Ofcourse it's amazing to fvck and release your cvm but does it makes me depressed if I don't fvck? Hell no. Ofcourse you can get annoyed and frustrated if you're really horny but you're not gonna kill yourself for fvck sake.

 

[Lordeterra]

Cure male depression? No, it’s only a momentary ejaculation of those bad feelings…

Yes. Whenever I've been on a dry spell or felt like I'm unattractive I become a troll. When I have sex I feel more human and natural so yes

 

[SW15]

I don't know if it is a cure but having sex does make you feel better about yourself, especially if the sex is consistent sex.

Does having sex regularly make you mentally healthy? I don't think so. While it is a component of mental health, it is not the only thing.

Neil Strauss, Roosh, Mystery, and Tucker Max all had mental health things going on despite reasonably high notch counts.

Eliot Rodger's lack of sex contributed to his problems. I think the mental health issues were there first, but the not getting laid part only accentuated the negative cycle. He had a solid BMW 3 Series and still wasn't getting any action.

 

[Mike32ct]

On one extreme, such as the incel example, lack of sex can certainly feed depression. It's not even the lack of sex itself. It's the lack of validation that bothers those guys the most.

At the other extreme, there may be guys that are technically depressed (for other reasons) but use lots of sex (like a drug) to medicate their pain.

But overall, yeah, I think it's probably a potent depression fighter.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Depending on women for happiness in every or some aspects is a rocky hill road. You and things you do are your source of happiness. As someone said maintaining a good balance in life, doing good in all areas.

Getting laid or not doesn't determine mine happiness. Ofcourse it's amazing to fvck and release your cvm but does it makes me depressed if I don't fvck? Hell no. Ofcourse you can get annoyed and frustrated if you're really horny but you're not gonna kill yourself for fvck sake.

Do you really think sex is only an orgasm?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I was watching this, and it got me interested:

Actually we attacked this. If your sex and affection is lacking then a good decline will be life changing.

 

[RickTheToad]

I was watching this, and it got me interested:

No. Being on your purpose in life is the cure for depression for dudes. For females, well, good luck with that.

 

[Barrister]

No. It can certainly alleviate some of those feelings. But by itself and on the grand scheme of things it is not going to change anything on a long-term basis.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Actually we attacked this. If your sex and affection is lacking then a good decline will be life changing.

If you have been in a drought for a prolonged period then a good sex life will be life changing.

 

[Roober]

Thinking sex fixes problems is the same mentality of an alcoholic who drinks at 10am

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Thinking sex fixes problems is the same mentality of an alcoholic who drinks at 10am

No one here is drinking at 10AM unless they are on a vacation.

Masculine men are supposed to be having sex, it's part of masculinity. Sex is more than an orgasm, there is science to prove this. So if a man is used to having a good sexlife, and you strip that away from him, he will be more bitter, more of an azzhole and it will be hard for him to be happy, although on chasing purpose he can gain some happiness, he won't be as fulfilled as with a loving partner.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Its not the sex that cure depression but the feel of being appreciated, desidered and approved.

Sex itself only briefly takes away tension if validation is missing.

Depressed guys who pay hookers leave even more depressed than before since there is no validation.

A guy that hits the club and take a hot girl home surely gets a strong improvement in his mood.