"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Is perception our only real limitation?

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By this, I mean, are we limited in thinking certain things are impossible simply because we perceive them as being impossible?

Do we see only what we want to of the world, and not what we can?

Whether it is actually true or not, here is an interesting story I read a couple years ago. When European explorers landed on islands full of natives who never witnessed boats or even had any clue as to what a boat was, it was said that the natives never actually knew how the explorers arrived. In other words, they did not know that the boats and the explorers were existent because their perception was turned off from them.

This leads me to wonder how many things we as humans are limited by simply because are minds are still closed.

Something to think about.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's certainly possible. If you think something is impossible then it might as well be since you're certainly not going to try it.

That being said, a realistic perception of one's own abilities would be very useful to have. When you first do something, and for many more times afterwards, it goes without saying that you're going to fail miserably at it, and I think that we all recognize this.

Still, I can understand how a person can turn "I can't do it" into "I'll never be able to do it" - a failure of imagination. But then imagination is easy - anybody can imagine anything - actually doing is a great deal more difficult.

It's like the chicken and the egg - which comes first: success or confidence?
 
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There is certainly a "realm of the impossible", but 95% of what most people would classify as such is nothing more than limitations they put on themselves.
 
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