"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is perception our only real limitation?

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By this, I mean, are we limited in thinking certain things are impossible simply because we perceive them as being impossible?

Do we see only what we want to of the world, and not what we can?

Whether it is actually true or not, here is an interesting story I read a couple years ago. When European explorers landed on islands full of natives who never witnessed boats or even had any clue as to what a boat was, it was said that the natives never actually knew how the explorers arrived. In other words, they did not know that the boats and the explorers were existent because their perception was turned off from them.

This leads me to wonder how many things we as humans are limited by simply because are minds are still closed.

Something to think about.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's certainly possible. If you think something is impossible then it might as well be since you're certainly not going to try it.

That being said, a realistic perception of one's own abilities would be very useful to have. When you first do something, and for many more times afterwards, it goes without saying that you're going to fail miserably at it, and I think that we all recognize this.

Still, I can understand how a person can turn "I can't do it" into "I'll never be able to do it" - a failure of imagination. But then imagination is easy - anybody can imagine anything - actually doing is a great deal more difficult.

It's like the chicken and the egg - which comes first: success or confidence?
 
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There is certainly a "realm of the impossible", but 95% of what most people would classify as such is nothing more than limitations they put on themselves.
 
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