"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is oral reciprocation expected?

2crudedudes

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I was hanging out with my FB (ex), whom I've had sex with many times (oral, anal, vaginal, you name it, we did it). Its been a while since we broke up, and its been a really long while since she gave me a BJ. I asked her for some lovin before heading inside, to which she replied "don't ask, its tacky." Fine, point taken. But before I could go in, she told me she was dry and that I should go down on her....

I said I wouldn't do it, and she blabbed on about how I was going "eye for an eye." She said she didn't wanna blow me because she didn't feel the same way about me, and brought up how I'd given some other chick (who was never my gf) oral. She tried to pass it off as if it was equally pleasurable for me, which it isn't. I love eating her out, but on a psychological level. Nothing beats a good ol hummer, though.

In the end, she booked before we could hook up. What do you guys think? I mean, I can understand that some foreplay was gonna be necessary, but demanding oral or else she bails (especially when she won't even entertain my request)? WTF?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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john paul

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Thats bullsh!t on her part and its good you didnt fold.

By her turning your request down and then asking for oral she was trying to take control of the FB relationship.

Next time get the sex and leave it at that. Start trying to make her feel used.
 

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Oral should be done because you want to, not because some chick gives you an ultimatum.
 

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Or just stick your tongue up her ass, and see if she asks you for oral again.
 

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Julius_Seizeher said:
Or just stick your tongue up her ass, and see if she asks you for oral again.
eew. not worth it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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2crudedudes

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john paul said:
Thats bullsh!t on her part and its good you didnt fold.

By her turning your request down and then asking for oral she was trying to take control of the FB relationship.

Next time get the sex and leave it at that. Start trying to make her feel used.
Thanks for reassuring me. I felt kinda dumb that I gave up getting laid for not eating her out, considering I like both. But I think the power struggle here was the most important part of the night. I guess I'm glad things turned out the way they did :S

Special T said:
Oral should be done because you want to, not because some chick gives you an ultimatum.
I usually don't mind eating her out. I do enjoy it. But the fact that she just got up and left because I wouldn't do it shows her true colors. I was honestly surprised (and outraged) that she reacted that way.

Julius_Seizeher said:
Or just stick your tongue up her ass, and see if she asks you for oral again.
Actually, she kinda digs that (and I like playing with her ass too, so...) :p

sodbuster said:
go in for a s1xty n1ner position-if she won't you don't
Great idea!
 

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It's your FB so I wouldn't over think it too much. If she's having NSA sex with you, you're bound to but heads about small stuff like this from time to time. FB situations are that where either party can say no to anything from time to time. That's what being a FB is all about, it has to be convenient and wanted by both parties. You don't have to do anything you don't want to and neither does she. Since you aren't a couple there isn't really a need to sit or talk about it because it's just sex.

Just bide your time and you'll get head from here eventually. You could buy some vodka to speed up the process if you want it that bad.
 
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