AFC_Schism
Don Juan
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I'm texting my girlfriend, should I be worried about this? Her ex (according to her, was abusive, but basically he just displayed higher value than her and ignored her and was an ******* so she was all over his ****) broke up with her a while back, and even after they broke up he kept her around for sex for at least 3 months. She described him as "abusive", but to her "abusive" just means he knows how to completely dominate girls with no self esteem and keep them stringing along.
I met her way after this, but recently I found out he was texting her every now and then, and she was actually replying and talking to him. And he's also asked her to hang out and she hasn't responded to those texts, but when he talks to her just making small talk she responds. I talked about this with her today and here's the conversation:
Her: I dont see how texting him twice and not even having a conversation with him constitutes as talking to him occasionally at all.
Me: I dont get why you respond to him at all after the way you guys were, you obviously thought the relationship was abusive. If that was me I wouldnt even respond.
Her: Honestly youre right. I shouldnt of responded. But you know what? Its not like I'm back in his trap. I AM completely over him, and thats why i didnt see it as that big of a deal, but i also didnt try to continue to conversation any further. I saw it and still do see it as completely harmless b/c it was a random text.
Me: Why do you think he's texting you in the first place?
Her: It doesnt matter why hes texting me. It doesnt matter to me if hes over me or not, i cant change that. it doesnt matter how he feels, it matters how i feel and i couldnt give two ****s about him, that's what I want you to truly believe, is that im over him
It's coming off to me like she's still not over this guy.... Am I just being paranoid or should I trust my intuition on this one? She admitted to texting him back even after I told her not to, and justified it because "we were on a break", but at the same time she has sworn she hates him and never wants to talk to him again.
Also, she has admitted to cheating on a past boyfriend before, and this guy obviously seems like he knew how to keep stringing girls along and so I'd view this as a learning experience for me (and probably take notes), but its just a bummer, I never really suspected this girl that way. I can't see why she'd go back to him, I've seen pictures of him, I'm more attractive by a long shot and I'm willing to put money down that I'm better at sex (I've been fortunate enough to be blessed with the ability to last a really long time - I've ****ed her for an hour straight before I came, she can barely even handle me that long and she literally won't shut up about how good I am, so much so that she even boasts to her friends about it).
I guess it goes to show that there's more to the game than looking good and ****ing good. I dunno, what do you guys think about this situation?
I met her way after this, but recently I found out he was texting her every now and then, and she was actually replying and talking to him. And he's also asked her to hang out and she hasn't responded to those texts, but when he talks to her just making small talk she responds. I talked about this with her today and here's the conversation:
Her: I dont see how texting him twice and not even having a conversation with him constitutes as talking to him occasionally at all.
Me: I dont get why you respond to him at all after the way you guys were, you obviously thought the relationship was abusive. If that was me I wouldnt even respond.
Her: Honestly youre right. I shouldnt of responded. But you know what? Its not like I'm back in his trap. I AM completely over him, and thats why i didnt see it as that big of a deal, but i also didnt try to continue to conversation any further. I saw it and still do see it as completely harmless b/c it was a random text.
Me: Why do you think he's texting you in the first place?
Her: It doesnt matter why hes texting me. It doesnt matter to me if hes over me or not, i cant change that. it doesnt matter how he feels, it matters how i feel and i couldnt give two ****s about him, that's what I want you to truly believe, is that im over him
It's coming off to me like she's still not over this guy.... Am I just being paranoid or should I trust my intuition on this one? She admitted to texting him back even after I told her not to, and justified it because "we were on a break", but at the same time she has sworn she hates him and never wants to talk to him again.
Also, she has admitted to cheating on a past boyfriend before, and this guy obviously seems like he knew how to keep stringing girls along and so I'd view this as a learning experience for me (and probably take notes), but its just a bummer, I never really suspected this girl that way. I can't see why she'd go back to him, I've seen pictures of him, I'm more attractive by a long shot and I'm willing to put money down that I'm better at sex (I've been fortunate enough to be blessed with the ability to last a really long time - I've ****ed her for an hour straight before I came, she can barely even handle me that long and she literally won't shut up about how good I am, so much so that she even boasts to her friends about it).
I guess it goes to show that there's more to the game than looking good and ****ing good. I dunno, what do you guys think about this situation?