"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is my friend settling?

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fanatic22

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My best friend is 28, great looking guy, about to graduate from a top B school with an incredible job lined up. Basically he’s in the top 1% of the dating market and in the prime of his life. On the negative side he also feels strongly about only having sex with girlfriends and is somewhat moralistic about sex. And he tends to be fairly needy in relationships.

So, he met a 33 year old average looking Colombian woman who ADORES him and, as anyone who has dealt with Colombian women knows, they latch on to you and love bomb like there’s no tomorrow. They’ve been dating for 6 months. It’s been a LDR but they will probably end up in the same city within a few months. He’s thinking about proposing in a few months.

I love this guy to death and I can see how happy he is but I can’t help but feel like he’s settling. He’s been burned really badly in the past so he truly believes this is the only girl in the world who will treat him like this. I have no idea what to do - if I bring this up overtly I know he’d get extremely defensive. Any advice?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You can try to bring it up gently but you have zero chance of influencing him. Blue pill guys that are in love will not be capable of thinking about their relationship with any level of rationality. In ten years I don't think I've ever seen or managed to talk some sense into someone in that situation. Best you can do is try to mitigate some damage and pick up the pieces later.
 
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