"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Is my friend settling?

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fanatic22

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My best friend is 28, great looking guy, about to graduate from a top B school with an incredible job lined up. Basically he’s in the top 1% of the dating market and in the prime of his life. On the negative side he also feels strongly about only having sex with girlfriends and is somewhat moralistic about sex. And he tends to be fairly needy in relationships.

So, he met a 33 year old average looking Colombian woman who ADORES him and, as anyone who has dealt with Colombian women knows, they latch on to you and love bomb like there’s no tomorrow. They’ve been dating for 6 months. It’s been a LDR but they will probably end up in the same city within a few months. He’s thinking about proposing in a few months.

I love this guy to death and I can see how happy he is but I can’t help but feel like he’s settling. He’s been burned really badly in the past so he truly believes this is the only girl in the world who will treat him like this. I have no idea what to do - if I bring this up overtly I know he’d get extremely defensive. Any advice?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You can try to bring it up gently but you have zero chance of influencing him. Blue pill guys that are in love will not be capable of thinking about their relationship with any level of rationality. In ten years I don't think I've ever seen or managed to talk some sense into someone in that situation. Best you can do is try to mitigate some damage and pick up the pieces later.
 
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