The LadyKiller
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This doesn't involve trying to get a girl, but it does involve dating, so I am hoping you could explain what's happening in my situation.
I've been dating my gf for a year. My close friend has been dating his gf for 4 months. Early on when he and his gf were dating, he would text me regularly telling me how happy he was and, recently, pushing for us to double date (he has met my gf once). Typical stuff.
However, over the past month, he's been acting...differently. And I don't think it's because he's spending tons of time with his new girl (they hung out pretty regularly early on - moreso than they do now, and we kept in touch consistently). If I call or text, he doesn't respond for 2-3 days (with those responses being short), when it used to be instantaneous. When I've brought up our double date plans, he formally declines ("Gf and I are unable to attend", with no rain check). Somehow, I got him to meet me for dinner over the weekend. He wasn't in a bad mood, but was reserved. Didn't have much to say, and I probably carried 80% of the conversation. I asked about his gf and how things were going, he never asked about mine. I asked him if he was doing ok, he said "yeah everything is good, me and gf are good, I'm just busy." Which would be completely valid, if he didn't tell me minutes before he is bored at work and only sees his gf a couple of days a week. There aren't any ill family members he is worried about either. I texted him the next day saying it was nice to catch up. 4 days later, no response.
Is this a huge deal? No. But I think it's odd. My gf doesn't think he is treating me well and thinks I'm too calm about it. I know many people grow apart over time, but this seems sort of sudden. When it comes to maintaining friendships when both of you are in relationships, what advice would you suggest? Because whatever is happening in this case, that's not it.
I've been dating my gf for a year. My close friend has been dating his gf for 4 months. Early on when he and his gf were dating, he would text me regularly telling me how happy he was and, recently, pushing for us to double date (he has met my gf once). Typical stuff.
However, over the past month, he's been acting...differently. And I don't think it's because he's spending tons of time with his new girl (they hung out pretty regularly early on - moreso than they do now, and we kept in touch consistently). If I call or text, he doesn't respond for 2-3 days (with those responses being short), when it used to be instantaneous. When I've brought up our double date plans, he formally declines ("Gf and I are unable to attend", with no rain check). Somehow, I got him to meet me for dinner over the weekend. He wasn't in a bad mood, but was reserved. Didn't have much to say, and I probably carried 80% of the conversation. I asked about his gf and how things were going, he never asked about mine. I asked him if he was doing ok, he said "yeah everything is good, me and gf are good, I'm just busy." Which would be completely valid, if he didn't tell me minutes before he is bored at work and only sees his gf a couple of days a week. There aren't any ill family members he is worried about either. I texted him the next day saying it was nice to catch up. 4 days later, no response.
Is this a huge deal? No. But I think it's odd. My gf doesn't think he is treating me well and thinks I'm too calm about it. I know many people grow apart over time, but this seems sort of sudden. When it comes to maintaining friendships when both of you are in relationships, what advice would you suggest? Because whatever is happening in this case, that's not it.