Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is my fear irrational?

TechnoScotch

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I have a female friend, that I met 5 - 6 years ago. Our interaction has always been very friendly and open.
Recently, I sent her a WhatsApp voice message explicitly expressing my desire to have sex with her. She was quite receptive and asked that we make it happen.

Here is the problem: She and I come from cultures/religions that have quite a bit of animosity and violence between them. There has never been between her and me on this basis though, and we talked about our religions.

And now I am afraid: what if her family finds out and decides to do something about it? What if she herself is targeting me, and bites of my **** or something?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lamath

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It would be irrational here in Canada, sadly i dont think many ppl will be able to anwser this from similar or same culture stand point
 

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So in your mind she has been patiently waiting for 5 years to put her plan to bite your d!ck off into action? You're probably being a little irrational.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You expressed a desire for her. She reciprocates. Then you have misgivings about different religions.

This doesn’t seem to be a problem for her as she wants to know how you can make it happen.

Secret, taboo partner sex is pretty hot stuff. If you want her to feel some amazing passion generated by this situation you better jump on it. If not, why even bring it up?
 

TechnoScotch

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Cause I was thinking with my **** then.

And now paranoia took over.

But I see your point. Thanks
 

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Cause I was thinking with my **** then.

And now paranoia took over.

But I see your point. Thanks
If you have those types of misgivings about it, there's probably a reason. Your gut is trying to tell you something, listen to it. That taboo sex stuff is going to be f*cking awesome when you are doing it. As long as you are good with whatever consequences that you know your religion, your family is going to put down on you for doing so when they find out? Then keep doing it until you get busted, then deal with the fallout. If the fallout is going to be nuclear? Perhaps you should listen to you gut then.
 

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Ever see that episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm where Larry David (who is Jewish) has sex with a Palestinian woman?
The dirty talk while they are doing it in the bed is pretty funny. Like "I am going to occupy you", "Fvck me like Israel fvcks my country", stuff like that.
The episode is from season 8 and is called Palestinian Chicken. Larry David is awesome.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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