"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is moving out of your parents place, important ?

Joe The Homophobe

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Eccentric said:
I say once you can afford to live on your OWN, then move out. Too many people want to grow up fast. They end up scraping by because they can't handle financial responsibility. HDTVs, home theater setups, car audio, rims, whatever before the utility bills.

Or they're in such a hurry to move out that they end up living one block from the ghetto because it's all they can afford. There's nothing wrong with living at home, until you ready to move out. Just make sure the options you have infront of you are good options.
That is some good advice. Here is one situation you guys haven't considered. It is not so easy for everyone because some grew up where rent is more expensive. Moving out is not the same for a guy from california compared to someone from like 40 other states in America. For example a guy from Arkansas he could probably move out of his parents house and move somewhere in that same city and afford the rent and other bills by himself because rent is cheap there. A guy from california and other places can't do the same. He will have to live with strangers and even that way it will be expensive. Many times he won't have the luxury of being able to afford living in the same city he grew up in, the place he knows. That right there is a big problem. If moving out was hard then moving out to a city you don't even know with no connections is even harder. It is even harder if you live in expensive states like cali,new york and others and plan on moving to a new state where a lone guy can afford to live on his own with a regular job.

Maybe some of you grew up in the suburbs and your family is well off. Maybe they will give you a couple of gs for your savings to help you out. Some guys come from poor families, their families can't help them out infact they help their families out, and they got no savings. Now imagine how hard it is for that guy to move on his own, now combine it with him having to move to a new city or a new state. The combinations are endless.

Im just saying how there are so many little factors, so many combinations and situations, this is not just "get some balls and move out" like some of you make it out to be. Rent these days is insane and it might not be the most fun but living with your parents for a couple of years after high school is the smartest choice. In a time when everything is so expensive having a few years to save money before you move on your own is the smartest choice.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Joe The Homophobe said:
That is some good advice. Here is one situation you guys haven't considered. It is not so easy for everyone because some grew up where rent is more expensive...
Economics 101: Rent is expensive in places where there is a greater need and where the earning potential could sustain the cost. And this doesn't mean that you have to rely on substantial housing. It has always been this way and it always will be. The difference is that in years past people started preparing to leave home a lot earlier than people do nowadays. Possibly because they felt more responsibility to pull their own weight.
 
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