"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is kissing really a big deal?

Iwantahottie

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Allright usually in my technique I'll mention the first kiss tension. I'll say, "Don't you just love all that tension of a first kiss?"

Mostly 99% of the time I've got a yes. I'll say sometimes "Don't you wish you can just live forever in that feeling." Basically kind of like a pattern.

Anyway, I've been seeing this chick for 2-3 get togethers now and last night I said that and she said "No I hate the first kiss, it can ruin everything" So I said "Are you that bad of a kisser?"

So again that night I decided to go without a kiss. I know I didn't give that much of a situation but IS THE KISS THAT IMPORTANT?

I mean if you don't do it are you only looked upon as a friend even if you use romantic and sexual talk?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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alphawolfx

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yep. until you kiss her, it's just a friend or a potential

so kiss her... don't always lead up to it, either with the routine, sometimes, just feel it and go for it, if you don't get the kiss... well, analyze what you did wrong (too soon, went for it awkwardly? etc)
 

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Originally posted by Iwantahottie
IS THE KISS THAT IMPORTANT?

I mean if you don't do it are you only looked upon as a friend even if you use romantic and sexual talk?
I've had sex before with a girl I'd never kissed. Make of it what you will...
 

I-am-someone

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The kiss is pretty important, or at least so I have been told. It creates an instant mental bond between a man and a woman that doesn't really happen just from talking.
Prostitutes in the Netherlands have the rule (I know this from a movie!!! :D) not to kiss any of their customers. Both the customer and the prostitute will often begin to have feelings for eachother when they kiss, that they can't really control.

Kissing is important, you can do without it but you'll have to use other ways of arousing her.
 

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Kissing is a form of penetration; an action that makes a person vulnerable to another person. It's a way to show intimacy, affection for one another. The way you kiss can show how deeply you feel about someone. Penetration of the mouth can be just as great as penetration from orifices of the lower body.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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follow up

Some prostitutes are the same way here. No kissing is allowed unless they feel they share a connection with their partner. I was just thinking about the prostitution element too. Sex without love might feel great for the moment but the feeling afterwards feels like a bitter dryness in your mouth. Especially when you realize you really did care about that person but they didn't care about you.
 

So pimp its scary

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ƒUCK YEAH KISSING IS IMPORTANT!

It's a great IOI, it tells alot about the person that you are kissing, etc.
 

FM 3321

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Yes, kissing is important. One of the sure ways to tell that a girl is interested in you more than a friend.
 
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