"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is kissing really a big deal?

Iwantahottie

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Allright usually in my technique I'll mention the first kiss tension. I'll say, "Don't you just love all that tension of a first kiss?"

Mostly 99% of the time I've got a yes. I'll say sometimes "Don't you wish you can just live forever in that feeling." Basically kind of like a pattern.

Anyway, I've been seeing this chick for 2-3 get togethers now and last night I said that and she said "No I hate the first kiss, it can ruin everything" So I said "Are you that bad of a kisser?"

So again that night I decided to go without a kiss. I know I didn't give that much of a situation but IS THE KISS THAT IMPORTANT?

I mean if you don't do it are you only looked upon as a friend even if you use romantic and sexual talk?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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alphawolfx

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yep. until you kiss her, it's just a friend or a potential

so kiss her... don't always lead up to it, either with the routine, sometimes, just feel it and go for it, if you don't get the kiss... well, analyze what you did wrong (too soon, went for it awkwardly? etc)
 

diablo

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Originally posted by Iwantahottie
IS THE KISS THAT IMPORTANT?

I mean if you don't do it are you only looked upon as a friend even if you use romantic and sexual talk?
I've had sex before with a girl I'd never kissed. Make of it what you will...
 

I-am-someone

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The kiss is pretty important, or at least so I have been told. It creates an instant mental bond between a man and a woman that doesn't really happen just from talking.
Prostitutes in the Netherlands have the rule (I know this from a movie!!! :D) not to kiss any of their customers. Both the customer and the prostitute will often begin to have feelings for eachother when they kiss, that they can't really control.

Kissing is important, you can do without it but you'll have to use other ways of arousing her.
 

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Kissing is a form of penetration; an action that makes a person vulnerable to another person. It's a way to show intimacy, affection for one another. The way you kiss can show how deeply you feel about someone. Penetration of the mouth can be just as great as penetration from orifices of the lower body.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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follow up

Some prostitutes are the same way here. No kissing is allowed unless they feel they share a connection with their partner. I was just thinking about the prostitution element too. Sex without love might feel great for the moment but the feeling afterwards feels like a bitter dryness in your mouth. Especially when you realize you really did care about that person but they didn't care about you.
 

So pimp its scary

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ƒUCK YEAH KISSING IS IMPORTANT!

It's a great IOI, it tells alot about the person that you are kissing, etc.
 

FM 3321

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Yes, kissing is important. One of the sure ways to tell that a girl is interested in you more than a friend.
 
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