"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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is joinning indian dance class good thing?

Canadien

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hello guys, I am currently studying in the university and I get lot of free time on the side so how about dance classes?

The place I'm interested in teaches indian fusion dance with hiphop and jazz dance? Is this a good option? Teacher said around 90% students are girls, so will I get swallowedup? My friend already freaked out when I told him about this, is it really that bad?

I really need to feel comfortable around girls and I see this as good in two ways 1) I can learn to dance 2) get to meet new people..

Is this bad idea?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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realsmoothie

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No, sounds great. What's wrong with it?

Unless it's a dance only girls do...!
 

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Do it.

I regret not having done alot of good things in college. Join the dance class, for one, girls love guys who can dance well.

If 90% of the class consists of women, you have a great place to also practice your game . . .
 

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yes, definately, go do it. I take part in Salsa some weekends and the amount of women you meet and dance with makes it all worth it, and the fact that the man has to lead, essentially be the 'alpha' male gives you good practise! if you have nothing better to do, worth a try, if you dont do it, you wont know!
 

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it turned out

I was the only guy joinning the dance team, I just watched today as it was their last class for this semester, around 8 girls are in the group, this is not like salsa its individual dance, and most of their boyfriend showedup as it was open house,
but I still got to talk with one indian girl, so do you guys think its worth it?


It costs $130 for 8 classes, 1 hour and 30 minute per class, I don't mind about the money but do you guys think it would still improve my conversation thing with girls?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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but doesn't

salsa, tango and other stuff require partner? if not I might try it out, but still how likely is it that they accept singles?
 

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Dance classes are usually a good idea. Females almost always outnumber men (often by a big margin), and you get to improve your talents, socialize, etc.

I'm surprised you can't find a better deal than that, tho. If you look on the internet, you can possibly find some local dance clubs/groups that offer free lessons. (At my college, it's possible for students to sign up for dance as a p.e. credit, which is free.)

Also, I'd probably recommend either salsa or swing dancing over that Indian stuff. But if you want to, go for it.
 

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yes, salsa requires a partner, as I said in a previous thread, you have to dance with a female ;o) so your be forced to practice your convo with women, I'm actually really enjoying it now, learning some goods moves, it makes you slightly different to the rest of the men out there, people seem shocked that I dance salsa lol

give it a try, it's good fun!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well guys after

Shezz said:
Are you interested in Indian dancing? Is it something that you would want to do???

Don't do it for the sake of girls being there, if its something that you don't want to do in your heart, don't. Do something that you love doing.

You can meet girls ANYWHERE.

Sarge On...

some thought I have decided to look elsewhere, I already have calender marked for next semester I'm joinning university salsa dance program I think there will be boys there along with girls offcourse, I'm also joinning Badminton club, maybe even learninng to skate, so ya creativity is growing and my desire to do something will be fullfilled once I'm done with my exams..

Its hard thinking about girls and exams at the same time, double stress and no gain!!


Thanks a lot for lot of positive posts...
 
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