i found out that cold approaches hardly work on college campuses, but still, does eye contact while walking by mean ok-go? i have no fear of approaching at all, just fear of losing social status by cold approaching too often. does anyone here had success with direct, cold approaches on college campuses? so far, i'm 0/4.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
is it worth it to approach a hot girl who stares at you while walking by on campus?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
its definitely possible. The more you do it, the better you get at it.
The better you get at it, the more success you have.
The more success you have, the more options you have.
The more options you have, the tighter your game gets with each of these options.
The tighter your game gets, the more girls want to bang you / see you as sexworthy and someone they would hook up with.
The more you cold approach....your c0ck will thank you later.
The better you get at it, the more success you have.
The more success you have, the more options you have.
The more options you have, the tighter your game gets with each of these options.
The tighter your game gets, the more girls want to bang you / see you as sexworthy and someone they would hook up with.
The more you cold approach....your c0ck will thank you later.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
eye contact and a smile once you look at her gives you green light, yet you need good game to capitalize on that... he he been there myself.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
cguy2004 said:
Than check if your zipper is open.
Really hot chick might not smile, nor check you out or give you eye-contact.... less hotter ones will and may even flirt. Go for the ones that give you a really strong vibe. You will know which ones after awhile.
Half of them might be genuinely wondering why this guy is staring at them , thus eye-contact.
Generally, if they cant smile - they can go fuk themselves. My own philosophy.
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user43770
Guest
From my experience, college chicks enjoy sh1t testing guys - they love the power they have over men. If I look over and they're blatantly staring - basically begging for me to prove that I'm worthy - then I call their bluff.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Dude. If you're thinking about going for it, then that's enough to go for it.cguy2004 said:
You can't sit here analyzing a bunch of stupid signs. Maybe the girl who likes you isn't looking at you at all. Maybe she's looking at you but not smiling. Maybe she's smiling but not looking at you. Just grow up and do something.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Lucifero
Senior Don Juan
Then you have a fear of approaching.cguy2004 said:
You only got one life bud, better make the most of it. No regrets, take every opportunity.
Darth_Qurashi
Don Juan
yea man of course it's worth it. almost all the hot girls i see in my school are the ones that walk past me.
u gotta be daring. call them out. "hey, are you checking me out?"
or say something like "I like ur hair/scarf", "Is that a blackberry?" that was a good one, cuz im actually interested in buying one and needed ppls opinions on which version to get so it was a win/win
depends on the situation though. if they're just looking at you, just look back at them and smile, as if ur happy to notice they were staring at you. if they wer really looking at you, they have to smile back it's like this natural reflex and works almost all the time. then just playfuly be like "hello....." sometimes they weren't really looking at you, then just brush it off, ain't no thang. don't worry about social status, or getting rejected. only losers who are afraid of doing it would laugh at you. a real man would respect you for your efforts.
u gotta be daring. call them out. "hey, are you checking me out?"
or say something like "I like ur hair/scarf", "Is that a blackberry?" that was a good one, cuz im actually interested in buying one and needed ppls opinions on which version to get so it was a win/win
depends on the situation though. if they're just looking at you, just look back at them and smile, as if ur happy to notice they were staring at you. if they wer really looking at you, they have to smile back it's like this natural reflex and works almost all the time. then just playfuly be like "hello....." sometimes they weren't really looking at you, then just brush it off, ain't no thang. don't worry about social status, or getting rejected. only losers who are afraid of doing it would laugh at you. a real man would respect you for your efforts.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
...unless you are a douche - then no respect.
btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
regardless of whether or not she's giving you eye contact or whether she's walking or not...if you want to approach her just do it. Fvck all the signals. I've pulled successful approaches on girls who look mean and grumpy. It's chaos theory dude. non of it matters. its all a numbers game. just keep trying
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
forget the whole "cold approach" crap - you see a girl that you think it cute in your college campus thats giving you some eye contact, a simple - "hey whats.. i've seen you around a few times, i dont think we met, im Mike"
don't over complicate things
don't over complicate things