"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is it worth dating a girl you dont like for relationship experience?

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So is worth dating a girl you dont like for the sake of experience? I have little to no experience when it comes to kissing and sex(Im a virgin) and it makes me very self conscious whenever I date a girl, and there is this girl that told me that she would teach me only if we become a couple. I do not like her, and she knows that but I wonder if should I give her a chance while I gain experience from her?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So is worth dating a girl you dont like for the sake of experience? I have little to no experience when it comes to kissing and sex(Im a virgin) and it makes me very self conscious whenever I date a girl, and there is this girl that told me that she would teach me only if we become a couple. I do not like her, and she knows that but I wonder if should I give her a chance while I gain experience from her?
Yes, but realize somebody's gonna get hurt real bad here.
 

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There's probably no bigger regret men have romantically than not taking the chances or risks they had growing up.
 

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and there is this girl that told me that she would teach me only if we become a couple.
If you submit to her condition you are totally in her frame. You won't be leading her, she will be leading you. If you don't like her enough for a longer term than nonattached casual dating, let her go.
Btw - Sounds like she's trying to nail you down without a bang yet and that's somewhat scary. Consider that she may already be knocked up.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I don't see the point, although if such an uninteresting woman were to be the aggressor and the vibe is that you are not looking to close off opportunities with other women, then it would be OK - just don't poke it in as she will most assured try to tie you down for 18-3/4 years (I know a guy that took this stance and hit it, and now he's a daddy to kids from a fat mom).
 

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Experience trumps knowledge any day of the week. Go for it, just don't get lost if you know it's a short term thing already
 

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When I was a Virgin, I pretended that I had sex multiple times already. Never tell a female you are a Virgin because that means literally no female wants you.

So yes, use her like she wants to be used. Only on your terms though. It seems like you are very gullible to the whims of women, no offense
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So is worth dating a girl you dont like for the sake of experience? I have little to no experience when it comes to kissing and sex(Im a virgin) and it makes me very self conscious whenever I date a girl, and there is this girl that told me that she would teach me only if we become a couple. I do not like her, and she knows that but I wonder if should I give her a chance while I gain experience from her?
I've done this years ago for similar reasons. Yes, I'd recommend it. Its really not a big deal. Its not much different than meeting somebody, having sechs on the 2nd date and 5wks later somebody says this isn't what I want.

A man with experience will never be at the mercy of a man with a theory. Go for it. Just don't drag it out when she questions your authenticity.
 

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Just be sure to have one bag for her head, and one bag for your head, in case her bag falls off. :D
 

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Never date women you don't like. Ever. It's mean to them and doesn't say good things about you. A successful man can have any woman, so obviously he will choose one he likes.
 

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Never date women you don't like. Ever. It's mean to them and doesn't say good things about you. A successful man can have any woman, so obviously he will choose one he likes.
The problem is he's NOT successful.

You cannot successfully own a restaurant if you've never worked a day in your life. A person working at McDonalds has a better chance of owning a successful restaurant.

To the OP: Yes, date women you don't like. That's how I started out, and even though I broke some hearts, I regret none of it.
 

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Never date women you don't like. Ever. It's mean to them and doesn't say good things about you. A successful man can have any woman, so obviously he will choose one he likes.
There is no reason to care for a female beyond having your needs met. Love is conditional. Once she no longer meets your needs there is no reason to talk to her in most cases.

Being mean to women shouldn't be your concern. Your concern should be getting your needs met which is what op appears to be leaning towards.

You appear to have a lot of empathy and are probably a genuinely caring guy. That's a problem when dealing with women. It appears weak to them.

I see what you're saying though about a successful man choosing a female he likes, but op is still trying to get some practice.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So is worth dating a girl you dont like for the sake of experience? I have little to no experience when it comes to kissing and sex(Im a virgin) and it makes me very self conscious whenever I date a girl, and there is this girl that told me that she would teach me only if we become a couple. I do not like her, and she knows that but I wonder if should I give her a chance while I gain experience from her?
You actually told a girl you have little or no experience? Brutal if true.

Men, don't tell women your weaknesses. They will use it against you when most beneficial for them and most painful for you.
 

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It is good to get on the score sheet, so to speak, but do understand that you will treat women you like differently to those you're not to fussed with, at least to start with.

The idea is to get to a stage where you treat them all the same every time, but something to bear in mind.
 

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Friends with benefits would be better in this situation. Morally its not a good thing to lie to someone i.e get in a rs with them knowing you will dump them if something better comes up.
 

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So based on most people opinions, I should take this opportunity to gain experience. I actually told her that we could be good friends or help each other out instead of a couple, but she keeps insisting that she will only teach me if we are couple because she is afraid that she will fall in love. That is why I am hesitant on whether I should lie to her or not, I do not want to hurt her, but I want to gain experience so badly.

She is above average on look maybe like a 6 out of 10, what turns me off is her needy/dependent personality. What I find most attractive on a women is someone who is independent.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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