"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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is it worth cold approaching without eye contact first?

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is it worth cold approaching without eye contact first?


I have found that most of the times women will at least chat with me for a while and give me some time if we both get eye contact first. If I approach without her acknowledging me first the approach goes cheesy.



what do you guys think ?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If I ever did cold approach, I'd have some excuse. Even if it's just something as stupid as 'accidentally' bumping into her, saying sorry, and then continuing from there. But then I guess it's not completely cold.

Cold approaches work best when you're hot. Really, really hot.

Alexi
 
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Originally posted by sfalexi
If I ever did cold approach, I'd have some excuse. Even if it's just something as stupid as 'accidentally' bumping into her, saying sorry, and then continuing from there. But then I guess it's not completely cold.

Cold approaches work best when you're hot. Really, really hot.

Alexi

and u check her out first and wait for her to check u out ?
 

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quit asking advise from girls here, they dont know anything
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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sfalexi

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Saki,

I'm a guy.


nomoremisterniceguy,

I check her out BEFORE the 'bump'. After the bump I apoligize, ask her if she spilled anything or something, then smile and walk away. Then come back later. She'll at least recognize me on the second approach.

Alexi
 

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Originally posted by sfalexi
Saki,

I'm a guy.


nomoremisterniceguy,

I check her out BEFORE the 'bump'. After the bump I apoligize, ask her if she spilled anything or something, then smile and walk away. Then come back later. She'll at least recognize me on the second approach.

Alexi
no pun but your name is Alexi and your a guy?
 

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I'm puerto rican. And my name used to be Alexis (which in spanish cultures is a guy's name). Since I live in America, my family foresaw the future problems of being "Alexis" and dropped the "s". So "Alexi" still causes confusion over the internet, but not so much in real life.

It works.
 

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no biggie. It's the net. Mistakes are bound to happen.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Of course you can approach without eye contact, stop being a ***** and just do it.
 

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I agree with bobob. I cold approached a HB last week, talked for less than 3 min., got her #, and had a date with her this past week. It works. Not always, but don't believe the crap about cold approaches not working. They do.
 
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Originally posted by tihash
I agree with bobob. I cold approached a HB last week, talked for less than 3 min., got her #, and had a date with her this past week. It works. Not always, but don't believe the crap about cold approaches not working. They do.

where is that crap ? tell me the which websites so I can avoid 'em
 

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honestly though, what the hell do you have to lose from a cold approach

ya it might be going kind of bad since she never showed any eye contact first because she would be caught off guard

but sometimes it is hard to make eye contact with someone that you want to meet, so f*** it and just do it !!!
 
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Originally posted by Scoiland
honestly though, what the hell do you have to lose from a cold approach

ya it might be going kind of bad since she never showed any eye contact first because she would be caught off guard

but sometimes it is hard to make eye contact with someone that you want to meet, so f*** it and just do it !!!


lose your own believe that cold approaches DO work and start to believe what love doctors preach that
"you cannot pick up strangers"


I've read the book "The System" by Roy Valentine which states that in order to not get rejected never approach without any signs from her.

I see from my experience that I may be had lost several opportunities.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I would never approach without some kind of signal, but that's just me.

How I see it, the odds are always stacked against guys who approach women without signals because...

She could be in a relationship, not looking, not attracted to him, in a bad mood, in a rush, too shy to talk, too cautious, a b1tch who enjoys humiliating you, a tease, a flake, or may be intimidated, annoyed, offended, embarrassed or just turned off by guys who approach.

In fact, there's a very minimal chance you are going to get a positive response from a direct cold approach.

If she's purposely making eye contact, at least she's expressing an invite to approach.
 

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Last night, I saw a chick who was a dead ringer for the girl who plays Kelly Osbourne's hot cousin in that cable TV highschool drama with the midget psychologist. She walked past me in the bar without looking at me. I noticed her choker necklace made from tiny dominoes. I stopped her by grabbing her arm when she was almost past me and gently pulled her back in front of me. I acted almost preoccupied and told her I wanted to check out her necklace as I touched it and her neck. We got into a cool conversation and she ended up being pretty funny and friendly.

EC is not necessary. Who cares if the "odds are stacked against you?" It's up to men to make it happen. Sure I was crazy peacocked but having a strong dominant frame is all that really matters. In fact, peacocking itself can convey a strong frame because you're living in your own funky reality and don't give a fvck that you aren't fitting in with the crowd. Frame is key.
 

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I agree that the odds are stacked up against you, but after taking the initiative to make the cold approach, you feel good about yourself that you had the cojones to do it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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