Is it wise to steer clear of this woman for a while?

[Jariel]

I've started seeing a great woman recently who seemed extremely keen until today. We had arranged to meet up this evening, but when I got in touch to ask what was happening she said she'd have to cancel due to some bad news in her family.

Normally I would make the effort to be there for her and try to be understanding, but have had bad experiences from doing this. I don't want to be her shoulder to cry on or her friend so I've decided to back off, give her space and wait for her to get in touch with me.

A lot of the DJ material I've read suggests that this is the best thing to do, but do I risk appearing cold and uncaring?

 

[Don_Jon]

I think you should take the advice of the material on here, and kinda steer clear a little, maybe not cut off talkin to her completely but, just enough so that you give her space if she feels like she needs you then ur still available.

 

[DJDamage]

If you are not her boyfriend don't make an effort.

When you first start dating a chick you never met before, she only wants to see "the fun you" if you get emotionally deep with her problems so soon, she will associate that negative feeling with you and terminate the relationship.

Give her space and don't mention the bad stuff in her family unless she mentions it first. Then steer the conversation away from the depressing part to fun part. If she is not into a fun activity or conversation call it a night and head home until she is in a good mood again. You don't want to become her emotional tampon because of her problem.

 

[flexion_]

She cancelled your plans because of the family problem. If she wanted you involved she would have asked. Steer clear.

 

[Jariel]

Thanks guys, I'll go with the advice being given.

It could be a lie and a cowardly brush off, but some distance is probably best either way.