"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is it valid a girl does not want a bf or anything serious?

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If a girl is not looking for a bf (it doesn't mean she's not looking to get laid or have fun though) because she's abroad and things ended badly with her last bf not because it went sour but they both knew that it was ending at the end of the academic year and she was moving elsewhere and he was staying put, is it valid she would not want to get involved with me in fear I would do the same i.e leave?

This girl I am seeing thought I was leaving the country (we're both abroad) at the end of the academic year and did not want to get involved with me but enjoyed my attention. Does this explain why she seemed a little uncomfortable getting close to me in fear I would leave her?

She said she never wanted to experience that loss again. And I feel like her conduct with me is linked to that aspect. She made it very difficult for me to kiss her and I haven't even slept with her. I feel like she's worried she'd get emotionally attached cos I wanted something serious with her, and had I just looked to get laid and have fun it would have been better.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

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Generally a girl says she doesn't want a boyfriend for one reason: She is waiting for someone else.

But the whole "abroad" thing might change things a bit. You probably are better off just going for the "casual" approach.

The million dollar question is "Does she seem interested in anyone else?"
 
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Generally a girl says she doesn't want a boyfriend for one reason: She is waiting for someone else.

But the whole "abroad" thing might change things a bit. You probably are better off just going for the "casual" approach.

The million dollar question is "Does she seem interested in anyone else?"
 
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She only SAYS she isnt looking for a BF. That can change in a heartbeat. Dont put much credit in a womans words. They are all over the place.
 
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I agree. But is the fact we're abroad explain more? As in last year she had a serious bf and they had to part ways and that broke her heart so she would want a bf just not anything serious so would keep things at a distance not let him get too close, is this viable? I thought girls were incapable of sustaining casual relationships cos they inevitably get attached.
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She only SAYS she isnt looking for a BF. That can change in a heartbeat. Dont put much credit in a womans words. They are all over the place.
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just focus on showing her a good time and raising her attraction levels. Don't worry about relationships.
 
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No it is not valid that she says that.

All girls want to fall in love with the man of their dreams.

Never take anything they say seriously..
 
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I was gonna say "Maybe, because I know I don't want anything serious."

But then again, I suppose if a girl who knew what she was doing came around and generating high interest somehow, I doubt I'd be saying "I'm not looking for anything serious" at any point.
 
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she's not looking for a relationship with you.....

Did you fukk her before by the way? because I believe this conversation about relationships and what not should only happen after having sex.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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