"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is it valid a girl does not want a bf or anything serious?

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Confused

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If a girl is not looking for a bf (it doesn't mean she's not looking to get laid or have fun though) because she's abroad and things ended badly with her last bf not because it went sour but they both knew that it was ending at the end of the academic year and she was moving elsewhere and he was staying put, is it valid she would not want to get involved with me in fear I would do the same i.e leave?

This girl I am seeing thought I was leaving the country (we're both abroad) at the end of the academic year and did not want to get involved with me but enjoyed my attention. Does this explain why she seemed a little uncomfortable getting close to me in fear I would leave her?

She said she never wanted to experience that loss again. And I feel like her conduct with me is linked to that aspect. She made it very difficult for me to kiss her and I haven't even slept with her. I feel like she's worried she'd get emotionally attached cos I wanted something serious with her, and had I just looked to get laid and have fun it would have been better.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Generally a girl says she doesn't want a boyfriend for one reason: She is waiting for someone else.

But the whole "abroad" thing might change things a bit. You probably are better off just going for the "casual" approach.

The million dollar question is "Does she seem interested in anyone else?"
 
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Generally a girl says she doesn't want a boyfriend for one reason: She is waiting for someone else.

But the whole "abroad" thing might change things a bit. You probably are better off just going for the "casual" approach.

The million dollar question is "Does she seem interested in anyone else?"
 
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She only SAYS she isnt looking for a BF. That can change in a heartbeat. Dont put much credit in a womans words. They are all over the place.
 
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I agree. But is the fact we're abroad explain more? As in last year she had a serious bf and they had to part ways and that broke her heart so she would want a bf just not anything serious so would keep things at a distance not let him get too close, is this viable? I thought girls were incapable of sustaining casual relationships cos they inevitably get attached.
horaholic said:
She only SAYS she isnt looking for a BF. That can change in a heartbeat. Dont put much credit in a womans words. They are all over the place.
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just focus on showing her a good time and raising her attraction levels. Don't worry about relationships.
 
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No it is not valid that she says that.

All girls want to fall in love with the man of their dreams.

Never take anything they say seriously..
 
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I was gonna say "Maybe, because I know I don't want anything serious."

But then again, I suppose if a girl who knew what she was doing came around and generating high interest somehow, I doubt I'd be saying "I'm not looking for anything serious" at any point.
 
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she's not looking for a relationship with you.....

Did you fukk her before by the way? because I believe this conversation about relationships and what not should only happen after having sex.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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