"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is it unreasonable that I'm uneasy if my GF doesn't mention her friend's name?

Fela Kuti

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Hello,

For example if I ask her who dropped her home from work and she says "a friend" without mentioning her/his name, I'd feel uncomfortable. If I were in his position I'd mention the name so that I don't wonder about things. What do you think? Am I being possessive/unreasonably jealous?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mrgoodstuff

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Hello,

For example if I ask her who dropped her home from work and she says "a friend" without mentioning her/his name, I'd feel uncomfortable. If I were in his position I'd mention the name so that I don't wonder about things. What do you think? Am I being possessive/unreasonably jealous?
The vagueness of it is unnecessary, but she may feel you want unnecessary details. I don't think anything is wrong with you.
 

El Payaso

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Two things you can do. One is to not care and not let it bother you. The other is to mentally assume it is a female or gay male friend.

Both will make you feel better.
 

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^^Disagree with everything said in this thread.


You should ALWAYS call out any and ALL BS on the spot. I learned that the best way to live in peace and confidence is get confirmation on any feelings of unease or at least have a solid answer for any unknowns.

I come from a point of right and wrong. Its not right for me to date a girl and care for her, and not knowing if she is spending her time with some other guy wether its getting a ride or "YOU SAY HES JUST A FRIEND, YOU SAY HES JUST A FRIEND!" hahaha ummm no bich! You got the game wrong and fk you!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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