"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Is it true that if you have sex with her she will be attached to you?

pLaYtHiNg

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I saw a program on Discovery, (or was it another channel?) supporting that a woman's brain releases... Oxytocin (?) during and after intercourse, that makes her feel more emotionally attached to her partner. Let me see if I can find it on the web... it's very interesting.

Standby...

I haven't quite found what I was looking for... but this is pretty interesting, and explains some related ideas. I'll keep looking for that article.

http://www.menshealth.com/cda/artic...baad055c2c1110VgnVCM20000012281eac____&page=4
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DonGorgon

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Sex is like glue that holds attraction in place... IF you satisfy her sexually she will feel more and more attracted to you.. but she may be sexually involved with many dudes so that can nullify the effect..
 

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Frankly once you can have sex with her, I don't see the point of making her more attached.

For me it will be a freaking miracle if I ever get laid, what happens after that doesn't really concern me. Sex IS the goal.
 

pipe007

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there is no correlation whatsoever in having sex with a woman, and her becoming more sexually attracted to you..... i have had women in the past who were in love with me and had sex with me, and they can lose all that attraction just as quickly....

don't think that just because u had sex with a woman, it means you can relax... you always have to be on guard and never show weakness cuz they lose attraction quick... its an unfair game, but deal with it
 

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Sex doesn't make women attached to you, I don't understand how one could come to this conclusion, especially those who've been through this. If your mindset isn't right and you aren't taking care of business outside the bedroom, sex isn't going to be the glue that holds her to you.

Her desire to have sex with you is usually the outcome of having done everything else right. Sex isn't just some skillful reflex that everyone responds to, there's a lot of mental work that facilitates it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Jazzman19

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Maxtro said:
Frankly once you can have sex with her, I don't see the point of making her more attached.

For me it will be a freaking miracle if I ever get laid, what happens after that doesn't really concern me. Sex IS the goal.
And you wonder why you always get stuck in the "friend zone?" Geez. If sex is the ONLY goal, you will REEK of desperation to anyone out there. Plus the fact that you believe it will take a "miracle" for you to get laid shows you have low confidence.

Come on, man up! You are 5 years older then me, so I am sure you have been screwed over worse then me; but I have had my share of messed up situations, even recently (a cousin I was close to died, so my mental state was all kinds of screwed up for a few weeks), and even I don't see my situation this way!

Life will kick the crap out of you if you let it, and EVERYONE will have bad stretches. Just keep pushing to better yourself and take it one day at a time. On-topic- if you are good in bed, the attraction will be elevated. Suck, and good luck getting her back....
 
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