"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is it true that if you have sex with her she will be attached to you?

pLaYtHiNg

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I saw a program on Discovery, (or was it another channel?) supporting that a woman's brain releases... Oxytocin (?) during and after intercourse, that makes her feel more emotionally attached to her partner. Let me see if I can find it on the web... it's very interesting.

Standby...

I haven't quite found what I was looking for... but this is pretty interesting, and explains some related ideas. I'll keep looking for that article.

http://www.menshealth.com/cda/artic...baad055c2c1110VgnVCM20000012281eac____&page=4
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonGorgon

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Sex is like glue that holds attraction in place... IF you satisfy her sexually she will feel more and more attracted to you.. but she may be sexually involved with many dudes so that can nullify the effect..
 

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Frankly once you can have sex with her, I don't see the point of making her more attached.

For me it will be a freaking miracle if I ever get laid, what happens after that doesn't really concern me. Sex IS the goal.
 

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there is no correlation whatsoever in having sex with a woman, and her becoming more sexually attracted to you..... i have had women in the past who were in love with me and had sex with me, and they can lose all that attraction just as quickly....

don't think that just because u had sex with a woman, it means you can relax... you always have to be on guard and never show weakness cuz they lose attraction quick... its an unfair game, but deal with it
 

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Sex doesn't make women attached to you, I don't understand how one could come to this conclusion, especially those who've been through this. If your mindset isn't right and you aren't taking care of business outside the bedroom, sex isn't going to be the glue that holds her to you.

Her desire to have sex with you is usually the outcome of having done everything else right. Sex isn't just some skillful reflex that everyone responds to, there's a lot of mental work that facilitates it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Maxtro said:
Frankly once you can have sex with her, I don't see the point of making her more attached.

For me it will be a freaking miracle if I ever get laid, what happens after that doesn't really concern me. Sex IS the goal.
And you wonder why you always get stuck in the "friend zone?" Geez. If sex is the ONLY goal, you will REEK of desperation to anyone out there. Plus the fact that you believe it will take a "miracle" for you to get laid shows you have low confidence.

Come on, man up! You are 5 years older then me, so I am sure you have been screwed over worse then me; but I have had my share of messed up situations, even recently (a cousin I was close to died, so my mental state was all kinds of screwed up for a few weeks), and even I don't see my situation this way!

Life will kick the crap out of you if you let it, and EVERYONE will have bad stretches. Just keep pushing to better yourself and take it one day at a time. On-topic- if you are good in bed, the attraction will be elevated. Suck, and good luck getting her back....
 
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