"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is it true that if you have sex with her she will be attached to you?

pLaYtHiNg

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I saw a program on Discovery, (or was it another channel?) supporting that a woman's brain releases... Oxytocin (?) during and after intercourse, that makes her feel more emotionally attached to her partner. Let me see if I can find it on the web... it's very interesting.

Standby...

I haven't quite found what I was looking for... but this is pretty interesting, and explains some related ideas. I'll keep looking for that article.

http://www.menshealth.com/cda/artic...baad055c2c1110VgnVCM20000012281eac____&page=4
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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DonGorgon

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Sex is like glue that holds attraction in place... IF you satisfy her sexually she will feel more and more attracted to you.. but she may be sexually involved with many dudes so that can nullify the effect..
 

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Frankly once you can have sex with her, I don't see the point of making her more attached.

For me it will be a freaking miracle if I ever get laid, what happens after that doesn't really concern me. Sex IS the goal.
 

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there is no correlation whatsoever in having sex with a woman, and her becoming more sexually attracted to you..... i have had women in the past who were in love with me and had sex with me, and they can lose all that attraction just as quickly....

don't think that just because u had sex with a woman, it means you can relax... you always have to be on guard and never show weakness cuz they lose attraction quick... its an unfair game, but deal with it
 

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Sex doesn't make women attached to you, I don't understand how one could come to this conclusion, especially those who've been through this. If your mindset isn't right and you aren't taking care of business outside the bedroom, sex isn't going to be the glue that holds her to you.

Her desire to have sex with you is usually the outcome of having done everything else right. Sex isn't just some skillful reflex that everyone responds to, there's a lot of mental work that facilitates it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Maxtro said:
Frankly once you can have sex with her, I don't see the point of making her more attached.

For me it will be a freaking miracle if I ever get laid, what happens after that doesn't really concern me. Sex IS the goal.
And you wonder why you always get stuck in the "friend zone?" Geez. If sex is the ONLY goal, you will REEK of desperation to anyone out there. Plus the fact that you believe it will take a "miracle" for you to get laid shows you have low confidence.

Come on, man up! You are 5 years older then me, so I am sure you have been screwed over worse then me; but I have had my share of messed up situations, even recently (a cousin I was close to died, so my mental state was all kinds of screwed up for a few weeks), and even I don't see my situation this way!

Life will kick the crap out of you if you let it, and EVERYONE will have bad stretches. Just keep pushing to better yourself and take it one day at a time. On-topic- if you are good in bed, the attraction will be elevated. Suck, and good luck getting her back....
 
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