"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is it true that every DJs have passion?

moneyisking

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Until the last post, I didn't understand that passion was very important thing to DJ, but now I do understand, thanks to advices of fellow DJs.

I, however, always wonder if it's true that all DJs have passion.

Since I am in college, I see some immature, dumba$$, idiot, jerks who still

get puss*y pretty easy, and all they really do is party hard and smoke weed.

I want to finally be able to pull off smooth with woman but it's always the

dam sick feeling in the guts I get when I talk to women make me unable to

achieve that; then again, I realized I had no passion in my life, something I

really wanted and loved to do except women. I found it and working on it,

but anyways, is it true that all true DJs have passion? Also, to those of

real players who read this post, do you not feel a single bit of weirdness,

awkwardness, nervousness inside of you when you game that hot girl?

Honestly, if I could feel like I'm talking to my dude friend when I am talking

to any girl, I bet I can get girls so easy.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Galactus

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I'll give you my answer, just because you really seem to need one.

No, not all DJs have passion. Of course, that depends on what you mean by "DJ". If you mean someone who posts on this forum, then no, definitely not. If you mean a guy who gets laid a lot, again, I'd say no. Some guys just grew up with that ability.

I think passion comes from dedicating yourself to constantly refining what you know already, to becoming consistently better at it. I am a lifelong artist. I know how to draw a picture. But knowing that isn't enough for me. I want to get better through continual practice, learning new techniques and so on. I don't intend to ever stop learning, and that will keep me loving it for the rest of my life. That's passion.

Just because you can get a lot of women into bed, it doesn't mean you're passionate. If you think you lack the necessary passion, then just dedicate yourself to becoming consistently better at it. There should never come a day where you tell yourself you have learned all there is to know.

And take your personal feelings out of the mix. If I draw a crappy picture of Homer Simpson, I don't feel bad. I believe in myself as an artist. I don't look at other artists' versions of Homer and go, "Why oh why, can't I draw Homer Simpson as good as they can? Will I ever be happy?" I either try drawing another Homer, which will definitely be better than the last, or, more likely, I will move on to another drawing. Or maybe a painting, or sculpture. I have moved on from thousands of bad works. And it's made me an excellent artist.

This is how you should view pickup. How well other people do it has no bearing on you. There are too many variables. Yes, there are rules you can learn, just like I need to understand things like value scales and 3-point perspective. In that sense, maybe there are "better" artists than me. But to me it's all about what makes my art unique. What is going on in my head, and in my life, that motivates me to paint the way I do, with the style I do?

Picasso and Frazetta had very different styles and techniques. But both are artists that bring something to the table that you can't get anywhere else. That's what you should strive to do in your life, with everything you do. Don't concern yourself with what others are doing, and how it reflects on you. Look inside yourself, learn who you are, be content with that, and paint your world with that brush.

Keep thinking about how you can improve yourself in all areas, and you will eventually have all the passion you can handle.
 

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moneyisking said:
I see some immature, dumba$$, idiot, jerks who still

get puss*y pretty easy, and all they really do is party hard and smoke weed.
You only get as high quality a woman as you can. Those dumba$$ idiots are getting dumbass pu$$y. Don't be so quick to judge women on their appearance. Some of them, while looking smart and sometimes acting smart, can be very very stupid.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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initiatorhater06

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For the most part women have this fairy tale fantasy that a man will come along, sweep her off her feet and take all of life's problems away. When that doesn't happen the relationship will turn sour quickly.

Men are just happy to be getting some action.
 
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