Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is it time? Never had a proper Girlfriend at 30.

Demonicale

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Ok I'm just going to get right to the point. I'm no virgin, and I've had a lot of ***** in my life. Not as much as I'd like, but I've done OK.

What I'm worried about is that I've never had a proper girlfriend all my life, and now I'm 30. I've had quite a few one nighters and **** buddies. But I've never had a proper relationship.

I've been asked a few times by women when the last time i was with someone and i never really know what to say. I've had a few options to have one, just they are with women i class as below average.

To my question, would you guys advise going with a women who isn't very good looking just to get some girlfriend experience? I know this is really sad and low to ask, but you guys are the ones i respect for advice. I wouldn't have posted this if it wasn't weighing heavily on my mind.

Appreciate any advice good or bad.

Thanks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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There's no reason to get "girlfriend experience" unless you actually want the girl to be your girlfriend. Why would you waste both peoples time starting a relationship if it was someone you knew it wasnt going to work out with? If you like the girl, go for it. If you don't, you will just be miserable.
 

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You should never settle. But be realistic.. You're not necessarily going to end up with a supermodel. And there may be a girl who isnt as attractive looks wise but you guys really hit it off well. Thats what it comes down to, do you guys laugh and make each other smile and challenge and understand each other? If so, may be a good prospect for an LTR.
 

Demonicale

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Attractive women like to play mind games and **** around. Comes a point where your sick of that, and think dating down is the way to go.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you want this. Find a well educated foreign (but already in your country on her own) wallflower.

They tend to make good servants/ companions.

They may be hard to get though, I think they have a tendency to have a cold exterior, they are very protective because they arn't as messed up in the head as most women are.

Strong ***** shields
 

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Demonicale said:
Ok I'm just going to get right to the point. I'm no virgin, and I've had a lot of ***** in my life. Not as much as I'd like, but I've done OK.

What I'm worried about is that I've never had a proper girlfriend all my life, and now I'm 30. I've had quite a few one nighters and **** buddies. But I've never had a proper relationship.

I've been asked a few times by women when the last time i was with someone and i never really know what to say. I've had a few options to have one, just they are with women i class as below average.

To my question, would you guys advise going with a women who isn't very good looking just to get some girlfriend experience? I know this is really sad and low to ask, but you guys are the ones i respect for advice. I wouldn't have posted this if it wasn't weighing heavily on my mind.

Appreciate any advice good or bad.

Thanks.
If you have slept with a girl I don't see why she would not be willing to be your girlfriend.

No real reason to lower your standards...
 

Mike32ct

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I would say no to experimenting with a gf. Only if she's someone you actually want to date.

I'm in a similar situation. I've been laid, but haven't had a proper gf as of yet. If I meet the right one, I will. But I can't and won't string someone along just to say I had a proper relationship.
 
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