Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is it time for a NEW DJ Bible?

Should the DJ Bible be revised?

  • Yes, we need a whole new Bible

    Votes: 49 51.0%
  • It just needs some minor modifications/updates

    Votes: 38 39.6%
  • No, it's fine as it is

    Votes: 9 9.4%

  • Total voters
    96

Jariel

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I don't think I am alone in thinking the DJ Bible needs a big update or even a complete rehash.

For a start, it is way too big and longwinded, with epic novels (often with sequals and multiple parts) where a few paragraphs would suffice. When given the choice of posting a simple question in the forum or browsing through pages and pages of these inflated articles, it's no wonder that so many newbies are filling the forums with AFC questions.

I also believe a lot of the information in the Bible has been expanded on, advanced, condensed and explained a whole lot better since the original articles were written. In some cases, one post from the tips section could sufficiently replace 10 articles from the Bible.

What's more, I really feel there are too many contradictions. One writer will say "use every day to pursue women" and another will say "work on your life and let women pursue you", as one example. Perhaps it would help to actually acknowledge the different paths to "DJism" in the introduction (such as Fender's post: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=81569)

Anyway, those are a few of my opinions. Let's hear everyone elses...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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frivolousz21

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what we need is to have it geared towards.....being a real man..the traits of a man first then...women next..it seems the guys who come here want to be a man as much as gettng women
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
what we need is to have it geared towards.....being a real man..the traits of a man first then...women next..it seems the guys who come here want to be a man as much as gettng women
good point. i agree. first fix yourself, then get women...otherwise you may end up like Black_Italian

more posts from Pook on being a man and getting your life in check. because actually when you do have most of these things down, you'll be attracting some women by default. then you can add to that and try to get hotter women.
 

frivolousz21

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more posts from Pook on being a man and getting your life in check. because actually when you do have most of these things down, you'll be attracting some women by default. then you can add to that and try to get hotter women.

very very true
 

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I dont see a problem in having a new testament for the dj bible.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Jariel

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I'd like to see more content aimed at developing yourself as a man too. I'd agree on more Pook posts if it wasn't for his long-winded and patronising writing style that takes forever to get the point across. As much as I respect what he says, I feel the Bible should be a lot more concise and to the point if it's going to be a reference guide for newbies.

As for Blackjackal's idea for a new testament...sounds like great idea to me!
 

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as i voted for in the poll, i think the DJ Bible needs to be updated more often, with more interesting posts and tips.
 

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I think it should also be collaborated into 1 file. It takes you 3 days just to navigate through all the pages. It wouldn't take long for each of us to cut & paste a section into one document.

It would be much easier to read, if we could print it out or look at it as one PDF or word file.
 

Blue Phoenix

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Originally posted by Jariel
I'd like to see more content aimed at developing yourself as a man too. I'd agree on more Pook posts if it wasn't for his long-winded and patronising writing style that takes forever to get the point across. As much as I respect what he says, I feel the Bible should be a lot more concise and to the point if it's going to be a reference guide for newbies.

As for Blackjackal's idea for a new testament...sounds like great idea to me!
Yes I agree with you. I noticed a slight change in his style, but it's still prolix. You don't need to write a lot to get to the point. You can communicate effectively by writing less.
 

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At least have it searchable or organized better. It's difficult to pinpoint the advice I need without reading the entire posts.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hunchback

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New bible.

It's totally lose sight of what it's trying to achieve if you ask me.
 

MacAvoy

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Obviously everyone so far agrees that it needs some work. Instead of all sitting here agreeing w/ each other that it needs improvements, lets try come up with a strategy on how about to do that.

I know that this will create enormous debates, on where to improve, what to leave, etc.....

Anyone have any ideas on how to go about it?
 

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It doesn't need a complete rehash, but it does need work. I think what we really need is a better FAQ.
 

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no, it doesn't need to be completely torn down and redone. No knowledge should ever be disposed of because everyone has already learnt it. what about those new people who turn up and them wanna get into the game straight away. We should give them that opportunity, just like we would like the opportunity to leanr how to become a self-fulfilled man before we go after women. Give the the choice. The new testament of the DJ bible needs to be on the zen of being a man. That can quite easily be seperated from the old DJ bible, and posts from the old DJ bible dealing with this new topic may be moved if need be.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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thefonz

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It certainly needs to be updated a little but still......there are some CLASSIC posts (especially my latin boy fingers) that completely motived me and gave me the confidence and drive to believe I could/can better myself. I would hate tp see those works fade. For example I was doing my weekly reading of the bible and discovered (1 year later) post by Galactus called "fearless" that is so important to 100% of the AFC's on this board, go read it.

007 is right on the money......I think everyone should be writing thier OWN dj bible to have on them in paper so they don't revert back to the computer.......either take the effort to write all the stuff you know on your own time, or just print out all the posts that apply to you.
 

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new testament should include posts about improving yourself in different areas such as education, health, life changing experiences etc

there should be more in the bible about long term relaionships.
this site is geared to attracking the women to you at first and how to start dating them, however it isnt really geared to help guys keep the women interested in them for long term (more than 6 months)
 

brenbaus

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the bible just needs a refresh, like I saw in one of the other posts, we could possibly add a "new testement" of some sorts, and it could also use a search feature so we dont have to go digging through the bible to find a two line piece of advice
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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