"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is it supposed to be known to the girls you are interested in that you like them?

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Balla_Baby_69

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I don't think I come off as obvious, but my friends were talkign to this girl I'm interested in and she asked them (I wasn' around, btw) why they didn't dance with her at the party a few nights ago and she guessed it was because one of their friends liked her (btw, I did not give them the dumb idea of not dancing with her cus I like her, but they did know I do). Then she said "well, if someone likes me, I think it's Justin"

Didn't give a reason why and according to my friends she didn't say she DIDN'T like me.

Also, with this other girl I'm interested in, her friend asked if I had a thang for her. Same with another girl.

How do I make it not so obvious? I mean, I don't follow them around or anything like that, I just flirt with people. Is it OK to be obvious or what?

BTW: My friends covered for me somewhat and said she was wrong....
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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why is it a bad thing that she knows? the truth is generally preferable to lies in this sort of thing.
 
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If you're interested you want them to know. They don't have to know "how" interested, and if they also like you, it will make their feelings even stronger knowing you feel the same way (but they still don't know how much, which you can use to your advantage by not spilling your guts).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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it is not really a bad thing but try to turn it round so that although you may be a little interested she still has to qualify herself to you.
 
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This all goes back to the "being the prize" mentality.

If you have actually made yourself into the confident, witty guy you're supposed to, these things will fall into place.

When you get to that point, yes, you will want girls to know something. But that something is this:

You want them to think: "OMG....omg, omg omg Balla_Baby_69 just talked to me....omg....omg omg omg *5 mins later* ...omg...omg...I don't know...does he really like me? I mean he was talking....to ME! I couldn't really tell though because he was acting all confident and suave and shyt...what if he's like this with all the girls....wait, there he is talking to Suzie! Omg....he's like a pimp daddy, but maybe he really liked me! Omg omg omg...*panties begin to soak*...omg I better go stand over there so he has to walk by me again....maybe he'll ask me for my number! Omg omg..."

You get the point. THAT is how women should react when you talk to them. It shouldn't be too obvious that you're into them. But you should let them wonder. Women love mystery. When you create mystery, you create allure. This gets women thinking about you in a positive way.

Of course that reaction is contingent upon you having your shyt together. That's why you hear guys here talk about "Inner game" and how this site is about more than just one-liners.
 
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Yeah, you want them to know. You want them to know you might give up some of your precious time to take her out, if she's good enough. You also want her to know you are willing to walk away .

You don't want, "yeah baby balla likes me, I've got him under my thumb, he'll do anything I want"
 
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