Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

Is it stupid to ask the friend?

Michele l'Arcangelo

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 5, 2005
Messages
1,460
Reaction score
22
So this friend of mine, from a different school, named Sher(Junior) introduced me to this really hot girl (Senior) a few months ago before school ended... and we started liking each other. But after school started up again, we talked every other day, and things between her and me are going pretty dull.


I'm going to ask her friend to Homecoming Dance, but I haven't seen both of the girls since the beginning of August, and I have the choices of seeing them this weekend at:

1. (Friday) Their Varsity Football game to see Sher and her friend cheer.

or

2. (Saturday) A Filipino-Family-like-Party (me and Sher are Flips, and the girl is white) that they will be going to.

Should I go to both? OR, say I'm going to the football game, and DON'T go -- THEN go to the Flip-party? Which one would be better to ask her at (football has more guy-competition, the party has NO-competition)?

:::

The reason I'm asking this is... I'm thinking if I should ask Sher: "Hey, I have a question for you, Is your friend going to homecoming with anybody? I was thinking of asking her this weekend."

And even if I get rejected when I ask her friend, I KNOW I should just play it off like it's no biggie, and just like I have other girls to ask (but are Freshman :().
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

arutha

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 30, 2005
Messages
386
Reaction score
3
Age
39
Location
Australia
Ask her directly, not her friend.. Doesn't matter where you do it, just make sure she is in a good mood.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 5, 2005
Messages
1,460
Reaction score
22
Noooo... i meant ask her friend if she was going with somebody else already... NOT if she'd go with me.
 

DJ4Real

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 6, 2005
Messages
942
Reaction score
0
Don't just walk up and ask "HEY WILL YOU GO TO HOMECOMING WITH ME?????"

You have to be smooth in your approach.

You don't have to over do the smooth approach.

Just be cool, calm, and collected.

Just say " hey, *insert name*I think it would be cool if you go to home coming with me. If you come with me, you will see a blow out!...*in a calm and collected tone* how about it? "

If she says "yes that sounds great" don't say "GREAT" say something like "well you'd better bring your camo and army gear because it's going to be world war 3 and something is bound to explode...." now when you say the words "something is bound to explode"...don't look like a psyco!:woo: ...say it in a cool, yet seductive manner. If she says "no" say, well " that's sad, you don't know what your going to miss...I'll take *insert name*....she has been dying for me to ask her to do something fun with me....*wink one eye at her* ;) and say adios.:cool:
 
Last edited:

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Top