"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is it stupid to ask the friend?

Michele l'Arcangelo

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So this friend of mine, from a different school, named Sher(Junior) introduced me to this really hot girl (Senior) a few months ago before school ended... and we started liking each other. But after school started up again, we talked every other day, and things between her and me are going pretty dull.


I'm going to ask her friend to Homecoming Dance, but I haven't seen both of the girls since the beginning of August, and I have the choices of seeing them this weekend at:

1. (Friday) Their Varsity Football game to see Sher and her friend cheer.

or

2. (Saturday) A Filipino-Family-like-Party (me and Sher are Flips, and the girl is white) that they will be going to.

Should I go to both? OR, say I'm going to the football game, and DON'T go -- THEN go to the Flip-party? Which one would be better to ask her at (football has more guy-competition, the party has NO-competition)?

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The reason I'm asking this is... I'm thinking if I should ask Sher: "Hey, I have a question for you, Is your friend going to homecoming with anybody? I was thinking of asking her this weekend."

And even if I get rejected when I ask her friend, I KNOW I should just play it off like it's no biggie, and just like I have other girls to ask (but are Freshman :().
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ask her directly, not her friend.. Doesn't matter where you do it, just make sure she is in a good mood.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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Noooo... i meant ask her friend if she was going with somebody else already... NOT if she'd go with me.
 

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Don't just walk up and ask "HEY WILL YOU GO TO HOMECOMING WITH ME?????"

You have to be smooth in your approach.

You don't have to over do the smooth approach.

Just be cool, calm, and collected.

Just say " hey, *insert name*I think it would be cool if you go to home coming with me. If you come with me, you will see a blow out!...*in a calm and collected tone* how about it? "

If she says "yes that sounds great" don't say "GREAT" say something like "well you'd better bring your camo and army gear because it's going to be world war 3 and something is bound to explode...." now when you say the words "something is bound to explode"...don't look like a psyco!:woo: ...say it in a cool, yet seductive manner. If she says "no" say, well " that's sad, you don't know what your going to miss...I'll take *insert name*....she has been dying for me to ask her to do something fun with me....*wink one eye at her* ;) and say adios.:cool:
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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