"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is it smart to do this...if someone likes her??

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Ok here is the situation my friends:

I like this girl. And she is single right now. We are good friends (key word, although i am sometimes an ass just to be funny and she punches me for it, which is when i accuse her of just wanting to touch me).

ANYWAYS, this otther guy likes her too. He is very outgoing and very sexual. Talks about sex and penises and vaginas a lot lol. So he likes her, and she knows but is uncomfortably with him and they used to be friends, but now that she knows he is trying to get her, she doesn't like him anymore and doesn't feel comefortable around him.

So I was wondering:

1) I've been saying "haha you know you want him" and stuff like that. Is that smart? She just says " kerensky!!" And calls me mean. So should I be doing this? Does it hurt me and how?

2) Any other advice you have on how to get this girl would be appreciated. I am being unavailable a lot...because I really am, but I do make time to talk and always make her laugh.

P.S. feel free to ask me for more info. Me and this girl went to this winter ball before.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've been saying "haha you know you want him" and stuff like that. Is that smart? She just says " kerensky!!" And calls me mean. So should I be doing this? Does it hurt me and how?
The day it happens..you MIGHT be wanting to stab your penis and hammer your nuts. Be careful what you wish for....

Errm...to elaborate.
You tease, she hits you because she knows it's true.
 

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docs its been mad long whats up bro... and yes... your penis... hammer... balls... yes
 

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Originally posted by Docs
The day it happens..you MIGHT be wanting to stab your penis and hammer your nuts. Be careful what you wish for....
dude, i just experienced major shrinkage reading that.

anyways, i guess i should stop lol.

ANY MORE FEEDbACK NOT INVOLVED PULVERIZING MY GENITALS
 

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screw it, i'll repost the edit.

"Errm...to elaborate.
You tease, she hits you because she knows it's true."

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steroidsrule - Hey hey! I've been down...hit afc again. XD. yourself?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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docs hitting afc? no way i wont believe that.. your info is too good for that bro gotta have confidence
 

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when i start to see oit coming bro... i just go for social proof infront of her... in the long run i not only get her more interested in me... i also get myself less interested in her... works friggin wonders
 

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damnit >.<, if I wasn't single for 9 months...(5 before I found sosuave)...I might not be here..still learnin though.

Crap. I like her a lot too.
 

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bro listen to me... i went out with a girl for a week and she dumped me cause i went to a party without her... girls are nothing but bad news... i gotta make "lil chavez" happy... thats it.... ive been where you are though... even though you know in your mind that relationships suck... you still want one just to have it... i was the same way.... the way i see it... if i lose sleep over a girl its time to get it over with and make my move... rejection or victory... ill sleep great the following night
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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lose sleep -> move

That's a pretty good way of looking at it, might be worth a tip to other OIT victims.

I've been running scinarios though my head...when to do it..I was thinking of just flat out saying 'I like you', but recent threads proved that method disasterous.

Damnit...I was just thinking of waiting until closer to Christmas to pull it off...but coupling that with a gift...that's major AFC.

Crap. Crap. I better get the iron fist of almighty out...I'm going to need it soon.
 

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you see the thread on how you can compare girls liking guys to video games? thats my bible right there... i play more games than once could imagine... it never fails me... but yes gift + i like you is a major no no... make it interesting for them... women love the thrill of the catch
 

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I need a direct link, I must of missed it at some point.

I know it's nono!

How do I make it interesting?
(I hate being logical >.<)
 

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let me find you the link bro its so logical (i was born in germany so im all about logical)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ok that's cool. so how do i get this girl?? and what should i do if she tells me about him tryin to hit on her?? or "bothering her" as she puts it. she says she wants me to save her...but i am no captain save a ho
 

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she says she wants me to save her...but i am no captain save a ho



You want to save her, you get her to go out with you...lol.

Then you got freedom.

I guess..
 

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couldnt find it bro but ill say exactly what he said as i remember it :


girls liking guys is the same concept as guys liking video games

who wants a video game thats easy to beat in 1 day?
who wants a video game thats exactly like every other one?
who wants a video game that is too hard and is impossible to get anywhere?
who wants a video game that has no substance?
who is going to a buy a video game that isnt advertised?
who wants a video game that is predictable?
who wants a video game that doesnt change and has the same mission 24 times in a row?

understand the concept?
 

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btw if the person who wrote that reads it...make a comment on here because that is...in my opinion... the best piece of advice i have ever read because it hits home
 

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who wants a video game thats easy to beat in 1 day?
Noone!

who wants a video game thats exactly like every other one?
Depends..

who wants a video game that is too hard and is impossible to get anywhere?
Ewww!

who wants a video game that has no substance?
Simple games do it.

who is going to a buy a video game that isnt advertised?
Depends..the best games aren't advertised

who wants a video game that is predictable?
Everything is based on something

who wants a video game that doesnt change and has the same mission 24 times in a row?
Depends..if it's ****loads of fun and has a lot to do...

Concept understanding...Minimal, though I see the point...I'm a refuting son of a b!tch. :rolleyes:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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