Is it sex addiction or sexual ability?

[DariusTheBartender]

Hi guys,

I've thought about this for a long time but theres only a limited number of people I can talk to in person. I have a high number count of women I have been with. I've gone thru pretty crazy measures to have sex (never paying for it!) From internet meetups and going into parts unknown in 3rd world travels with women I just met, then of course just way too many late nights at bars... but I digress...

Guys with high numbers that aren't paying for it, aren't porn addicted (I actually watch none now), dont masturbate multiple times a day (I only do once or twice), didnt get fired over sex stuff etc... are we sex addicts or is it purely we are able to do what most single men would if whatever restrictions be it religion, monogamy, or just lack of game applied?

It's been a long time but I remember at one point the Psychology DSM didnt list sex addiction. I wish I could find the study but they said that compared to gambling or drugs it didnt have the same effects on the brain... to me its biological... but I'd love to hear other opinions?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If your a "freak" you shouldnt reveal to a non freak. They dont understand and will label you as addicted.

 

[SeekerOfTheWay]

If your a "freak" you shouldnt reveal to a non freak. They dont understand and will label you as addicted.

This. Hide the whips and floggers until someone flashes you the secret gesture. People are so judgmental.

 

[Trump]

Hi guys,

I've thought about this for a long time but theres only a limited number of people I can talk to in person. I have a high number count of women I have been with. I've gone thru pretty crazy measures to have sex (never paying for it!) From internet meetups and going into parts unknown in 3rd world travels with women I just met, then of course just way too many late nights at bars... but I digress...

Guys with high numbers that aren't paying for it, aren't porn addicted (I actually watch none now), dont masturbate multiple times a day (I only do once or twice), didnt get fired over sex stuff etc... are we sex addicts or is it purely we are able to do what most single men would if whatever restrictions be it religion, monogamy, or just lack of game applied?

When guys go out of their way to mention:

- they have HIGH numbers (2x in 5 sentences)
- they are NOT paying for it (2x in 5 sentences)
- they are NOT porn addicted
- they didn’t get FIRED over sex stuff

It means:

- they have LOW numebrs
- they are paying for it
- they are porn addicted
- they did get fired

The evidence shows you want to be called a sex addict who doesn’t pay for it and doesn’t watch porn. In other words, you are so smooth girls are privileged to have sex with you.

OK, we will label you a sex addict.

 

[sazc]

you can probably find it but the measure for something that is an addiction has something to do with that it interrupts the normal ebb and flow of your life.

if, otherwise, your life is fine you go to work you sleep you have decent relationships with your family friends Etc then you don't have an issue

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This. Hide the whips and floggers until someone flashes you the secret gesture. People are so judgmental.

They can flag you for fvcking your own wife or husband most nights.

 

[The Duke]

I've been with a lot of girls and for me it was all about seducing and conquering. Never an addiction that caused issues in my life, although there have been periods I devoted large amounts of time to chasing women. It was always something that was healthy....I put work into and got enjoyment from.

It's a thrill. Its powerful. It's adventurous. It's challenging. It's mental. It's physical. It's visual. It's sensual. It's high's and low's.

Meeting a woman for the first time and pulling out all the stops that lead her to drop her panties was a game I enjoyed very much.
Making her feel things she never felt before because all of the previous guys didn't have the understanding I did was very powerful.

I've always been a sexual person and have deep appreciation for fine female bodies. Sex for me is never something that takes only 20minutes. I'm a marathon guy and enjoy every inch of their bodies. Far too much pleasure to be had for her and me.

I got off more on the quest, than I did the actual sex although it was always very enjoyable. The quest is what drove me to the next one. I'm a hunter.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

When does it become an "addiction"? An asexual or ultra conservative person might think someone who has sex most nights is addicted.

 

[Fruitbat]

I know 2 guys who would fit this category.

Both didn’t get to where they did by chance, they’ve spent a lifetime trying to build the frame to do it.

Both are extremely egotistical and are definitely on the sociopathy/dark triad spectrum.

Both take special pleasure in seducing women, cheating on their girlfriends and sadly, any woman I’ve ever had in their company, I’ve observed them trying to run game on.

For some, perhaps you’re ethical about it. For others, it’s a personality disorder.

Both of these guys I had to break it off with, they aren’t trusted and will prob end up lacking a lot of the lasting friendships that others take for granted. Indeed, one is now in the midst of a nervous breakdown.

I have no issue with people enjoying being single but some take this to an extreme.

I mean, who would want a male friend who committed his life to seducing women and measures his life in this fashion?

Sure, I slept around a bit when I was younger. Who doesn’t like getting laid?

When this becomes the prime focus of ones life, to the exclusion of everything else....you know if you’re not around your girl, these guys will see her as yet another trophy. They’ll have fun smirking about it when you’re back from your trip. And...because they’ve spent a lifetime appealing to female sexual needs, they have a damn good shot at doing it.

So many friendships these guys broke up as I was younger doing this.

They may feel the acclaim and by their own standards they may feel this is successful living. Personally I avoid them like the plague and will cut off from them.

I had to cut off from one recently as I watched covertly as he gave this long, obvious stare at my wife. This guy was supposed to be my best friend and was my best man.

They are most certainly not doing what any man with the means to do so would. I know loads of men with more sexual magnetism who don’t do this. It’s a function of a personality disorder. One which, one day, might actually get them put 6 feet under.