"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is it right to feel guilty?

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I met this doctor the other day, and I was into her for a while, but in honesty she is a bit of a slob. Whilst I did not say why we didn't think we'd work out, she started crying saying she was really lonely. :down: I don't like to turn any woman away whom I like in the least, but then I feel guilty. :confused:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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namismybabe said:
I met this doctor the other day, and I was into her for a while, but in honesty she is a bit of a slob. Whilst I did not say why we didn't think we'd work out, she started crying saying she was really lonely. :down: I don't like to turn any woman away whom I like in the least, but then I feel guilty. :confused:
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one more reason for you to stay away, every time she don't get things her way she will try to push for guilty trip on you.

but its up to you if you want someone like her around
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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From my understanding, people who feel guilty about nonsense like this (no offense) have been used a lot in life. Because you sympathize with people who are sad, because you know how they feel, you know how they feel because you have been taken advantage of a lot. Stop being so nice man.

Who gives a fvck if you rejected her, you think woman felt bad for rejecting you? 99% of the time they do not care. You should do the same.
 
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Feeling guilty for turning down a woman you are not attracted to is incredibly AFC. Your feeling of guilt in that situation is a reflection of an internal belief that you automatically owe something to women - all women. I bet you would not feel guilty about turning down the advances of a gay man (assuming you are not gay yourself...) Yet, you feel guilty about turning down a woman. Think about that for a second.
 
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You had the choice of going for something that you had a bad feeling for or to stop it before it gets harder. You chose the latter and saved yourself a lot of time and energy you can now put into something that makes you feel good.

Now you can be unhappy and eventually get over it instead of keep being unhappy with her.

Your reason to feel guilty is that you don't like to turn women away, yet you did it. You can either change your values or your actions. If you stick to the value of not turning women away this may cause problems later on. If you change the value to "I don't like to turn women away unless [add things you don't like]" then it would be easier to justify your action by the things you don't tolerate.

You will feel good when all your actions matches what you think.
 
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DonGorgon said:
its normal to feel guilty but right and wrong and purely 8subjective.
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Right and wrong don't even exist.

Though this proves the sociopathy of the average PUA.
 
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From my understanding, people who feel guilty about nonsense like this (no offense) have been used a lot in life. Because you sympathize with people who are sad, because you know how they feel, you know how they feel because you have been taken advantage of a lot. Stop being so nice man.

Who gives a fvck if you rejected her, you think woman felt bad for rejecting you? 99% of the time they do not care. You should do the same.
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Er.. no, it's called emotion. And who determines nonsense? Importance is relative, duh.

Don't PUAs teach life wisdom?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Grewd said:
You had the choice of going for something that you had a bad feeling for or to stop it before it gets harder. You chose the latter and saved yourself a lot of time and energy you can now put into something that makes you feel good.

Now you can be unhappy and eventually get over it instead of keep being unhappy with her.

Your reason to feel guilty is that you don't like to turn women away, yet you did it. You can either change your values or your actions. If you stick to the value of not turning women away this may cause problems later on. If you change the value to "I don't like to turn women away unless [add things you don't like]" then it would be easier to justify your action by the things you don't tolerate.

You will feel good when all your actions matches what you think.
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People contradict. And?

I turn women away all the time for trivial things, who cares? the world is a free for all.
 
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