"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is it right or wrong to imagine?

European-DJ

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For some reason, i have begun Imagening that i AM the man, and that I am capable of getting any girl i want.

What are your opinion on this, is it right or wrong to imagine and think that way?


"As you think, you shall become" I guess i am following THAT quote :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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From what I have learnt on SoSuave so far it's the right thing to do. I've started telling myself that I am "the man" as well. I look at all my good points and use it to up my confidence, also be more cheerful. I also think to myself that everyone I know, likes me, and all the girls likes me. One of the articles on here talk about "self fullfilling prophecies", so if you assume a girl likes you then it gives you more confidence and more chance of it happening.
 

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Htienvu, exactly, that is why i am doing it too.

But couldn't it make you too confident, i guess you could overdo it as well, and go jerkish?
 

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European-DJ said:
Htienvu, exactly, that is why i am doing it too.

But couldn't it make you too confident, i guess you could overdo it as well, and go jerkish?
I guess you have to balance it, be confident but humble. ****y & funny but not a jerk. It's tough but we're learning.
 

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Yes, that's a good thing to do, just make sure you don't become delusional.

As important as it is to have confidence, a bit of humility helps us to realise we can all be better and keep pushing ourselves to be our best.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This is a paradox. Most pickup gurus tell you to be delusionally self confident - that you should think you are the coolest guy on the planet.

Of course the fact that they call this "delusional" means they know it isn't true. But it gives you an air of ****y confidence. The problem comes when you go around thinking you are so great but then don't get the results you expect. This can result in a letdown.

The other side of the coin is that when you are looking to self improve, you have to be able to look at yourself realistically and see the truth about yourself. You need to be able to identify your weaknesses so that you work to either minimize them or strengthen them.

So it's a paradox. You need to see it both ways.
 
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