"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Is it right or wrong to imagine?

European-DJ

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For some reason, i have begun Imagening that i AM the man, and that I am capable of getting any girl i want.

What are your opinion on this, is it right or wrong to imagine and think that way?


"As you think, you shall become" I guess i am following THAT quote :)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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From what I have learnt on SoSuave so far it's the right thing to do. I've started telling myself that I am "the man" as well. I look at all my good points and use it to up my confidence, also be more cheerful. I also think to myself that everyone I know, likes me, and all the girls likes me. One of the articles on here talk about "self fullfilling prophecies", so if you assume a girl likes you then it gives you more confidence and more chance of it happening.
 

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Htienvu, exactly, that is why i am doing it too.

But couldn't it make you too confident, i guess you could overdo it as well, and go jerkish?
 

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European-DJ said:
Htienvu, exactly, that is why i am doing it too.

But couldn't it make you too confident, i guess you could overdo it as well, and go jerkish?
I guess you have to balance it, be confident but humble. ****y & funny but not a jerk. It's tough but we're learning.
 

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Yes, that's a good thing to do, just make sure you don't become delusional.

As important as it is to have confidence, a bit of humility helps us to realise we can all be better and keep pushing ourselves to be our best.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This is a paradox. Most pickup gurus tell you to be delusionally self confident - that you should think you are the coolest guy on the planet.

Of course the fact that they call this "delusional" means they know it isn't true. But it gives you an air of ****y confidence. The problem comes when you go around thinking you are so great but then don't get the results you expect. This can result in a letdown.

The other side of the coin is that when you are looking to self improve, you have to be able to look at yourself realistically and see the truth about yourself. You need to be able to identify your weaknesses so that you work to either minimize them or strengthen them.

So it's a paradox. You need to see it both ways.
 
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