"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is it really worth it

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Theres two girls at work who I wouldnt mind getting to know better, and they are here for two months until they need to go back to Europe. Well I also have only two months left until I leave for the military. Well thats not the point, but I wouldnt mind getting to know them better. But I dont want to start something that is going to make them argue with eachother. Should I go for it. Both are pretty hot. Id say about 7 or 8
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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An argument between them is something you can't control. It may happen, it may not happen. But, you should do what you want.
 

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drummer said:
An argument between them is something you can't control. It may happen, it may not happen. But, you should do what you want.
Yea but seeing as how I have to work with them. It would be akward
 

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XSilverStarboyX said:
Yea but seeing as how I have to work with them. It would be akward
hey you ask for advice, you get what we give.

and if you never make a move, you'll never see any of the results you hoped for.

you could miss out on something.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MikeS said:
hey you ask for advice, you get what we give.

and if you never make a move, you'll never see any of the results you hoped for.

you could miss out on something.
I appreciate the advice. I think tommorow Im gonna go in for the kill
 

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Well I didnt get it yesterday due to the fact that we were so busy I had no time to talk to anyone. Today, I actually did miss a few moments due to my AFCness. I saw them getting ready to leave at the same time I was. I kept saying to myself that I refuse to strike out yet again. i went up to one of them and asked if she and the other girl would like to do something sometime. She seemed a little taken away at first, but she started to give me the number. Then her friend came up and told me it was the wrong number and gave me the right one. Wierd I know, but I got a number, and actually pushed aside most of the AFCness
 

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XSilverStarboyX said:
Well I didnt get it yesterday due to the fact that we were so busy I had no time to talk to anyone. Today, I actually did miss a few moments due to my AFCness. I saw them getting ready to leave at the same time I was. I kept saying to myself that I refuse to strike out yet again. i went up to one of them and asked if she and the other girl would like to do something sometime. She seemed a little taken away at first, but she started to give me the number. Then her friend came up and told me it was the wrong number and gave me the right one. Wierd I know, but I got a number, and actually pushed aside most of the AFCness
Im dying to know, is this a good sign or a bad sign?
 

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Im dying to know, is this a good sign or a bad sign?
Call the number in a few days.

If she picks up, its a good sign.
If she doesn't... :(
 

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TheNewGuy said:
Call the number in a few days.

If she picks up, its a good sign.
If she doesn't... :(
Im gonna try calling tommorow. afterall, that would be a few days after I got the number. Im nervous about calling because Im still new to all this but Im just going to get in there and do it. No one ever got a girl by sitting around acting like a coward
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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